I heard in the radio this morning that this week is the one where most people get divorced. It makes sense since the decision to get a divorce is one that comes with wanting a different life, a fresh start. The radio show said that the most common reason is infidelity followed by abuse and then money problems.
A marriage is hard work, but it should not feel like it. If we learn to recognize how taxing the holidays can be in a relationship, we can begin to address things before they become issues.
The holiday season can really make you lose perspective over what is really important. Wanting to give the perfect gift or host the perfect party can really take a lot out of someone. Then the new year hits and all of those resolutions that did not get accomplished from last year can pile up and make it seem like another year went by without much change in life.
I really think the secret to a good life is having peace of mind. Being able to sit in a room by yourself and just be content with your life. Be able not to forget about your problems, but know that you have plans to tackle each one of them. Also counting your blessings and seeing where you are at instead of where you have not been able to get to.
It is important to be able to know what it is that releases your stress. A good crying session, a round of video game playing, a good book, a great CD. Don’t let stress get built up, take a moment of your day to decompress. Also don’t forget to laugh, make sure that you have something in your daily routine that brings a smile to your face.
Make sure that now that you are back at work, or school, or into your routine you put what is important first. Make sure that you take the time to clear your head each day instead of carrying stress that does not need to be carried. Open up to those around you about what is on your mind and encourage them to do the same. Move forward and make little changes to your life instead of trying to reshape it all in one day. Most important, be happy that you are awake and that you are taking on a brand new day.