Stress building up?

I heard in the radio this morning that this week is the one where most people get divorced. It makes sense since the decision to get a divorce is one that comes with wanting a different life, a fresh start. The radio show said that the most common reason is infidelity followed by abuse and then money problems.

A marriage is hard work, but it should not feel like it. If we learn to recognize how taxing the holidays can be in a relationship, we can begin to address things before they become issues.

The holiday season can really make you lose perspective over what is really important. Wanting to give the perfect gift or host the perfect party can really take a lot out of someone. Then the new year hits and all of those resolutions that did not get accomplished from last year can pile up and make it seem like another year went by without much change in life.

I really think the secret to a good life is having peace of mind. Being able to sit in a room by yourself and just be content with your life. Be able not to forget about your problems, but know that you have plans to tackle each one of them. Also counting your blessings and seeing where you are at instead of where you have not been able to get to.

It is important to be able to know what it is that releases your stress. A good crying session, a round of video game playing, a good book, a great CD. Don’t let stress get built up, take a moment of your day to decompress. Also don’t forget to laugh, make sure that you have something in your daily routine that brings a smile to your face.

Make sure that now that you are back at work, or school, or into your routine you put what is important first. Make sure that you take the time to clear your head each day instead of carrying stress that does not need to be carried. Open up to those around you about what is on your mind and encourage them to do the same. Move forward and make little changes to your life instead of trying to reshape it all in one day. Most important, be happy that you are awake and that you are taking on a brand new day.

Last post of 07

I really thought that my life had changed in 06, moving to a new city, ending a horrible relationship, facing some demons I had left in the cellar and did not deal with, but it cannot hold a candle to the year that 07 was. Not only did I marry my best friend, I also started enjoying life in a whole new way that I always knew was possible, trying to be completely happy and content every single day of my life.

I could make into a recap post, but I want it to be a little more than that… I want it to be my online gift to you so lets begin.

First you need to change your password. What? Work? yes. Begin this year being less of a victim and picking better passwords. Please read up on my guide how to pick a good password and what phishing is all about.

Second you need a laugh. If you are not aware, I have started a collection of the funny things I find online and been putting it on my tumblr. I bet you a penny that you will find at least one of the posts absolutely hilarious.

Third is very simple, do not be a pack rat. No I am not talking about personal possessions, even though that can lead to problems too. I am talking about things that bother you, if you woke up and tripped over a show that your significant other left there, just tell them it ticket you off without making it a big deal… it is liberating.

Right before the last thing I want you to do, I know I am kind of pushy, is to stop trying to please others and please yourself. Do not feel guilty for saying I want to do this instead of that. Being polite about what you want in life is the key, but seriously, pleasing others is not going to make you happy. Sure, it works for a while, but the moment that other person is not happy with something you did it all falls apart. So trust me, making others happy is very easy when you are happy first.

Last but not least, promise me that today you will call a family member or a friend that you have not talked to in a while. You do not have to kiss and make up, just wish them a happy new year and try to be the bigger person.

This year I made some great new friends and just this past weekend I met some of the local bloggers and some if not most have the potential of becoming friends. On that note I leave you with one thing I learnt this year, to have a true relationship both people have to want it. Relationships take a lot of work and doing it alone does not build a friendship, only resentment.

So take the good, leave the bad and have a happy new 2008!