The pain of childbirth is not something I ever want to experience. I know what you want to say, there is no way a guy could experience that… but leave it to the Chinese and they have a way to let you experience it. No thanks I saw my wife going through this and it was a horrible experience.
Before we get into that, and I will do my best to leave out any gore, I had a huge issue with the whole childbirth experience. I know, once again I have no right as a father to have an opinion since I technically did not “push the kid out.” But I was there and I get to be pissed off if I want to.
From previous visits and knowing the OB-GYN I knew most of the people coming in and out of the room. My wife being a nurse has introduced me to little nuances about hospitals and how to be a good family member of a patient. I am polite, I don’t ask for much and try to stay out of the way. The staff at the hospital was absolutely fantastic up to this point.
We were at a teaching hospital, which means tons of short coats (yeap, easiest way to recognize a resident.) Which overall does not bother me, but I will get more into that on the last post in the series. We did however say that during the birth we did not want a parade of people in the room. This is supposed to be a magical moment and we wanted it to be just about the birth and not about teaching people how to be a Dr.
I cannot even imagine what would have happened if we had not said this. Up until this point we had 3 people in the room, sometimes 4 at most. Fast forward to the birth and there were at least 12 people in the room and I was less than pleased about it. I will explain why soon.
I like to get to know the staff that will be handling my wife and future child. Mostly to be thankful for what they do. I know how hard all of it is. Things started to go fast and furious because the contractions were coming pretty quickly and dilatation even quicker. The first order of business was to get that epidural done. Not an easy task when contractions are really close together.
Even though we got to the hospital with still plenty of time having 10 births made it that we did not get into the actual birthing room until it was pretty advanced and the pain was horrible to look at. I cannot even imagine what my wife was going through because she has a high pain threshold and she was basically a mess after every contraction. There was basically nothing I could do for her. No breathing would help, no change of position, pretty much nothing could really alleviate the pain once a contraction came.
Not enough can be said about trying to get that epidural in early. After the epidural was in it was night and day. She did not look like she was being ripped in half by an invisible magician. She could actually concentrate on what was being asked of her rather than just try to stay conscious through pain that seemed to almost make her want to pass out. I find it almost barbaric that some people think that woman that don’t experience the pain of child birth without an epidural did not do it right.
Stress level at this point start to get to a good place and concentrating on the actual birth is what comes next. I really thought that the anesthesiologist taking too long to put the epidural was going to be the end of my rage inducing events. It was only the beginning.