Liberated from our own fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.

A Return To Love – Marianne Williamson

Quotes and poems are powerful forms of expresion. Song can be just as powerful but I believe many times the words get drowned by the emotions that the music evokes. The sentences above are so very powerful in many ways. They truly speak to me, sometimes it takes powerful words to wake you up and make you see what is right in front of you.

In a society dominated by the drive to win and achieve superiority we leave little room for everyone to explore their potential. Are all the people that “get ahead” really all that happy? What is the trues measure of “getting there”?

A relationship with a being that believes in you no matter who else does, be it God or yourself for those that don’t believe in imaginary friends, is necessary. We have to be our own cheerleader. If we ourselves don’t believe we can, truly believe, no one else is going to do it for us.

Different

“Don’t dare to be different, dare to be yourself if that doesn’t make you different then something is wrong.”

I think every single human in the world experiences the pain of being different at some point in their lives. A lot of people chose to try to be “normal” and “fit in,” and I do not blame them one bit. Being different is something that takes courage, being different means that you have to truly believe in yourself to the point that what others think truly does not matter.

In our society, instead of celebrating uniqueness, tries to kill it. Free thinking is always considered subversive. Our kids have enormous pressure at school to be like everyone else. Expressing our thoughts is not encouraged in our society, just look at music, TV and Movies; we see repetition of the same “formula” over and over. Are we willing to compromise innovation for the sake of normality?

I love the quote above. It really takes over the whole uniqueness idea and it really makes it work. When someone tells you, be yourself, it can be a complicated thing, but it should feel good. That is how I measure things for me. If someone cares to be my friend, they will have to accept me how I am, they can still have their opinions, but they should respect who I am. If you feel judged when you talk to a friend, then that person is not your friend. Even during disagreements or when someone is trying to give you advice, there should be a level of acceptance on their message. No matter how different we are from each other we should all accept each other and celebrate our uniqueness.

As always, what does the quote mean to you?

***What Makes Me Happy Today (8/4)***
Reading the following quote and thinking of my wife.

“A true man does not need to romance a different girl every night, a true man romances the same girl for the rest of her life”
-Ana Alas

Prejudice

“Great spirits have always found violent opposition from mediocrities. The latter cannot understand it when a man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and courageously uses his intelligence.”
-Albert Einstein

I have to dress up for work. All the way up to suit and tie at times. I don’t mind dressing up by I enjoy dressing down. I wear soccer shirts and jeans, or T-shirt and shorts when I get the chance to relax. Before I moved to the US I did not understand a lot of the labels that people have to live with every day. What is worse, I did not know that I was going to get a whole bunch of labels attached to me. Prejudice exists everywhere, but I believe that the US is the worse when it comes to labels. I have plenty of stories to tell about being discriminated against because of the color of my skin, but race aside I want to tell a little story about prejudice.

I walked into a cell phone store on my day off. I was wearing jeans and a T-shirt. My Gym shoes were probably not brand new, but overall all my clothes were clean and in good shape. The store was almost empty. Besides 2 customers already being assisted there was a supervisor that was not helping anyone at the moment. I walked around the store looking at cell phones and eventually approached the supervisor to ask him about getting a new phone. The guy acted annoyed and without even asking me about what features or plan I was looking for showed me the “free” phones. At this point I was becoming annoyed. I was not just feeling like I was wasting his time, but I felt judged… and at the time I thought it was probably due to my race… however I was wrong.

A couple of weeks later, after work in full suit and tie I had a chance to stop by the same store. By then I had researched what phones were available and was ready to just make the purchase. I went to the same store for convenience and since I did not need help I figured there would be no problem. I could have never been prepared for what happened next.

The same guy that had “helped” me before was there. At first I felt, oh great I am going to have to deal with this jerk again. It was about 5:30 PM and the store was full of people. They were not just busy, they were swamped. I almost turned around and left because I felt like I was going to just have to wait forever. I walked around a little and looked at phones and examined features, like I had done the first time I was there. I decided, its way too busy I will either go to another store or just wait. As I turned to walk out something happened that I did not expect. The same guy that had pretty much ignored me before said, I will be right with you Sir. I was dumbfounded… I looked around and was the only person standing in the direction that he spoke, he was talking to me.

I thought the guy had treaded me that way because of the color of my skin, but I was wrong. He used prejudice from a totally different angle; he only saw what he perceived to me the size of my wallet. You might be saying to yourself right now, how does he know that for sure… and well if I am wrong tell me, but the way he treated me made me come to this conclusion. The supervisor finished up with the customer and came over to me, he saw the phone that I was looking at and instantly told me, if you like that one you are going to love this one, we just got it in. I did not know what to say, this guy was actually trying to up sell me, the same guy that had taken me straight to the “free” phones when I walked in with jeans and T-shirt. The guy not only showed me a couple of phones but even though there was other people there that had walked in after me talked to me about the newest plans and coverage areas. I ended up getting the same phone I had walked in planning to get, it had the features I needed and even though the other ones were cool, there was no need for the extra expense.

Einstein is by many considered one of the smartest people that ever lived. Some are more impressed than others by him. He is almost like the geek celebrity. However this quote is one that I hope I can say I live. I try to use my intelligence rather than preconceived notions when I approach situations and people. While I am not perfect, I do try not to be a victim of preconceived judgment and truly feel like every person in the world no matter who they are has something to teach me. Prejudice is something that is hard to escape; it takes a conscious effort to not be dominated by it. At times this is made even more challenging when stereotypes are perpetuated by people acting like morons. I really hope that some time in the future we can live in a society where labels of race, physical appearance or economic status do not play such an important role on the way we categorize people.

Should I be mad that the guy judged me on my appearance? Was he truly judging me just on my appearance or was it just using the sales mentality that he probably knew of “up sell the suits and ignore the t-shirt and jeans guys”? Was my race a factor at all? Was that prejudice?

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Palabras de mi Abuelo – Words from my Grandfather

English Version

Hoy me llego por correo una revista publicada por la empresa en la que trabajo mi abuelo. La revista es de 1987 y contiene un articulo que escribio mi abuelo. El siguiente es un pedazo que quiero compartir con ustedes…

Debo dominar con plena conciencia la energia emocional.

No acepto en mi la inseguridad.

Debo esperar siempre lo mejor en lo que me dedico, debo caracterizarme siempre por hacer sentir respeto.

el tiempo es…

…demasiado lento para los que esperan.

…demasiado rapido para los que temen.

…demasiado largo para los que sufren.

…demasiado corto para los que gozan.

Pero para aquellos que son responsables, siempre encontraran en su vida

… un buen tiempo.

Antonio J. Guzman

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Elephants and Grass

“When two elephants fight, it is the grass that gets trampled”
-African Proverb quotes

Proverbs are very powerful ways to transmit knowledge from generation to generation. While formal education is the way that most of us get our knowledge, I believe story telling and proverbs are still relevant and important.

This African proverb makes me think of our current situation quite a bit. I could talk about politics, but I have the feeling other people are already having their fill of that. One of the news stories that has been resonating lately is the Enron trial.

I am not sure whose fault it ultimately was. What I am sure of is that a lot of little people ended up suffering loses that changed their lives. Same thing is happening locally with Delphi and the UAW. Again more elephants fighting and more grass getting trampled.

I could speculate as to know is right and wrong on the issues. I think that our society is becoming a sad place if we have to get our politics from Jon Stewart or Rush Limbaugh instead of making our own minds up. Politics used to be boring, the morning shows would never pay that much attention, but lately it looks like a circus. The morning show is full of politicians talking about the issues.

Reporters are scared to do their jobs. Journalism has become a game where credibility is not one of the pillar but just a goal. Again in the end we are the ones that lose because in the information age we are feed philosophy instead of letting us come up with our own. We have become birds that wait to be feed regurgitated news. Opinions and commentary are important, but they are worth nothing unless we are still getting the actual news from somewhere in an unfiltered way. It is time to stop being grass and begin making those elephants accountable.

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