You know what one of the best presents I ever got? a Pandaren Brewmaster Deluxe Figure from Blizzard. DeGuia seems to always get me something very awesome for my birthday. I am not materialistic and did not expect such an awesome present from anyone but he went out of his ways to get me something I would really enjoy. He also got me the Game of Thrones books which I am still enjoying. I start with this because I don’t want to seem ungrateful on my post, because I am for everything anyone does for me but it has taken a while to be ok with getting presents.
I used to hate my birthday being celebrated. Partly because it was seldom celebrated and even forgotten, but it also had to do with getting presents. I was very dismissive of getting things I did not want growing up. I remember getting upset when I felt that people getting me presents put no thought into it. You know that saying “its the thought that counts…” well even that saying can be a double edge sword. You can still get a present and it have little or no thought behind it.
I love family. I love my family. My extended family can and has driven me nuts in the past. I don’t understand them completely yet, but I have started to as I get older.
People give and receive love in different ways, and while I could talk about it from a relationship standpoint it can also do with how you interact with your family.
I used to dislike the fact that being part of a big family meant that every single weekend there was a party for something or other. I also used to get very annoyed when kids birthday turned into adult gatherings. As I get older and become part of the “adult” group I start to get it a little more.
For the more social people in the family gathering together every weekend means something. If you have Italian friends and have been lucky enough to be invited to a Sunday dinner you know how important they are to them. Being social to some people is what family is all about. The birthdays, graduations and other gatherings are simply excuses just to see each other. I did not appreciate that before, but now that I get a little older I am starting to.
I still think that a birthday party should be about celebrating the person and not an excuse for the grown ups to get their “drink” on. I do however respect the fact that family might just want to spend time with everyone. Its hard to make the switch and start liking birthdays, gatherings and presents but I am working on it.
Family is very important to me and I am glad that I have so many people in the world that want me in their lives. I still don’t want people to make a big fuss over my birthday, but I am now more willing to celebrate it so I can see family and friends. It might not be the way I receive love, but if that is the way that some of those around me do, what is wrong with sharing the love?