When discussing this post with H this was the title that came to mind. I have been having a hard time deciding how much of a group that I belong to is noise vs useful information. I have a lot to talk about the topic and I thought I was going to start with the elitism of the group that I kind of started to talk about when I let everyone know that I’m kind of a big deal.
Recently I saw one of the ugliest things that happen in online communities happen. Almost in every community I have managed there has been a (if you quit without clearing it with the admin’s first, you are gone forever…no excuses) rule. The reason for that rule has been pretty simple, it never rewards the person seeking attention with a platform to set the place on fire before they leave. Don’t fool yourself, if you allow people to “air their grievances” on their way out it creates a level of negativity. This community that I am a part of (not manage at all) amplifies the damage with turning the blaze of glory into a full forest fire. Instead of doing some actual administration, the move to ridicule the person and bring up as an excuse the “this person did it before.”
They are failing at acknowledging that there are obvious issues with the community (recently there have been a bubbling of issues, and this last “I quit thread” has the flavor of someone piling on and not just really having true grievances.) Most of the “elite” posters of the group quickly moved to ridicule one of the most important issues to me. Now that I am moving to the “daddy blogger” world, what are some of the cautionary tales of using your cute kid as a product.
While the immediate reaction was to make fun of anyone that says that they don’t blog to make money or monetizing their kids, I think it is foolish to not have the conversation. I was sad that every time that I tried to engage people on this topic I only got one meaningful conversation out of my whole Dad2.0 experience. This has been probably the biggest thing on my mind about blogging as a roadblock. Previously it was employment, while I have plenty of funny stories about the IT world, I still have to pay the bills.
I was hoping that a group of people that should run the whole spectrum from I make no money from my pictures to the I am a brand ambassador for a manly cuticle remover would want to engage on the topic. The problem is that most of the elite people adopted a position, posted about it 3 years ago and feel like the topic is closed. The truth is that time changes, social media changes and the topic should be revisited if someone brings it up. That is not happening at all in this community.
The latest quitter brought it up, and instead of it being discussed it was set aside as basically just someone trying to insult everyone for turning their kids into slot machines. It is a true concern for me, not because I want to make money at this blogging thing but because I don’t want Tiny Tyrant to some day say that I used her for my own amusement.
All jokes aside, I am not an expert on this, I am new at this and I have concerns and would love some advice. I don’t want to be one of the parents in toddlers and tiara’s because I think Tiny Tyrant is the cutest baby in the world… or get her into modeling, or whatever but it seems every day that she loves music… do I encourage it, do I post it online, do I keep it to just performance in the living room or do I make her the next vine star?