Trevor from our DadBlogger group asks
When you look at film, literature, or television, who are the fathers who stand out to you as exceptional (for legitimate or dumb reasons)?
The first fictional father that came to mind was Ned Stark from Game of Thrones. While the HBO series did paint him in a positive light, in the books I felt he was the ultimate man of honor. I think most of his deeds and who he was still sends waves of repercussion through the series. I want to aspire to be that kind of father, one that leads by example and is ever-present in my kid’s life because of who I am.
Overall I think fathers in fiction are often misrepresented as figures that don’t do much beyond being the providers or at times enablers. Homer Simpson is probably the worst offender at being an exceptionally bad father, loving and caring but just the quintessential bad father.
Harry Potter has a parade of father figures from Dumbledore to Hagrid but the one that stands out is Sirius and he is quickly taken out of the series just as he is going to establish a relationship with Harry and actually become a father. His own father being dead is definitely a presence and shows up but not in the way that Ned Stark does in the Game of Thrones series. In a way there are glimpses of what a good father could be, but not quite a full picture in the series. I do think that Sirius could have been exceptional and different as a guardian.
Come to think of it a lot of the literature I have written has a lot of matriarchal themes where the male really take a secondary role to parenting and making decisions about child rearing.