Two Years

The wife and I just celebrated two years together in matrimony. Being the both of us had been married before, many people have asked, Why would you do that again? The answer is that marriage is the most sacred covenant for a reason. I don’t believe that marriage should be just for heterosexuals because I think that loves come in all different shapes and sizes. The emphasis on the word sacred has nothing to do with religion and everything to do with the importance of that bond.

I think movies, society, and at times even Disney tell us that with love everything is possible. While I do believe that is true in many levels, when it comes to relationships it also requires a lot of work.

I am in love with my wife, but I know that it is more like a plant and a statue. In my life my rock is my faith, not only for God but also our relationship and most importantly my wife. I also know that I have to work on keeping that love alive and strong.

Loving is easy, being in a relationship is not as much. My experience with marriage has taught me to be very realistic about expectations and to make sure I am aware of them on both sides.

The biggest challenge we have faced is actually communication. You would think that having two languages in common one of them being our mother tongue would make that easier. We are learning more and more about each other every day, and now know that we all have a chance to be who we really are, a concept that we had never really experienced in the past.

This weekend we did a lot of things to celebrate, but the most significant for me was to watch the movie Fireproof. It is a Christian movie, and some people might not be able to get past that. I did take a lot from it, and one of the most important things is that before we get married we might have a high school level knowledge of our partners. As life continues we should not be satisfied with that level of knowledge, we should keep on learning about our significant other for the rest of our life. I am not sure where I am with my knowledge of my wife, I think that is for her to answer. What I do know is that I am happy learning more and more each day about her, and experiencing life with her is a blessing that I am thankful for each day.

6 comments on “Two Years

  1. That is funny Log, after I read the first few paragraphs I was thinking about mentioning “Fireproof” but you beat me to it!!

    The one thing I’ve learned that is true from seeing Fireproof as well as going to some Marriage seminars is that there is no such thing as “being compatible” and that you have to make a decision to love someone. To quote Fireproof, “I decided to love her whether she deserves it or not”. What a challenge that is! The other thing that stuck out to me was when he said, “when people take their vows for better or for worse, they really only mean for better”. There are a lot of great lessons in that movie and it is pretty funny too. I highly recommend it!

  2. I can’t imagine being happily married to either of you is really that much work!! :). Congrats!

  3. Happy Anniversary — I remember when you announced it and can’t believe it’s been two years already.

  4. congrats on 2 years! I think i need to check this movie out. but yeah, main point is happy anniversary man!

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