First Friday Feast of 08

When was the last time you received a surprise in the mail, and what was it?
You mean one that was not a bill? I think various Christmas cards were excellent surprises.

If you could have a summer and/or winter home, where would you want it to be?
Summer one will probably be by the beach in the Isle of Capri (never been there but heard wonderful things), and the winter one will also be tropical in a like in Colombia by where I was born. (Lago Calima)

Pick one: pineapple, orange, banana, apple, cherry.
I pick all of them :) ok fine, Cherry.

Main Course
Describe the nicest piece of clothing that you own.
I think my blue suit with tiny stripes is probably the nicest, even though I do have a turtle neck of some fancy material too. The suit is dark blue and it has tiny almost thread size stripes about a quarter of an inch apart so they are not noticeable unless you look close.

If you could forget one whole day from your life, which day would you choose to wipe from your memory?
I think we all learn from past experiences, even the horrible ones… but this past Thanksgiving I was sick as a dog with some weird flu bug and yes, that day I would gladly erase. Thanks MD’s.

Religion and Sex

Politics and religion are taboo subjects for a lot of people, but thankfully the blogsphere is changing that. I seriously did not think that so many people would read and react (even though not directly on the comment box) to my Bad Sex post. I actually have about five different topics to be developed just from that post alone. That made me really start thinking about writing more on the subject. I am not a sex expert, but I have had sex. I have had bad sexual experiences as well as good ones. I have had problems in a relationship due to sex and also enjoy a happy sex life now. I also feel no shame when I talk about sex, but that does not mean that I am not familiar with what that feeling can do to sex.

One of my biggest problems with religion is that it separates a lot more than it unifies. First we have the people that believe in something bigger than just them and those that don’t. Then in the group of people that believe, we have more division and a lot more incentives to stay that way. Sex plays a big role on religion even if some people like to simplify it with the for procreation only banter. Sex made to be a dirty act negates our needs as humans.

Like the need to eat to survive, sex is something that is wired into our instincts. People that do not acknowledge that are as blind as those that think that living in a compound and giving up your 14 year old to a 40 year old to marry is all good because a leader said so. Sex is something that takes a lot of effort to suppress, but like an anorexic will tell you, it is suppressible none the less. So why does religion want to put a chastity belt on something that feels so good?

I believe it has something to do with the line that religion draws in the sand and likes to call perversion. While sex between two consenting adults should not be a matter of public scrutiny, religion likes to make it their business to tell them how they should have it. Some people might think it is crazy to let religion tell them what to eat, but they forget that some people do not drink caffeine, pork or beef because their religion tells them to.

I do not need religion to tell me the different between right and wrong because my own morals tell me that. I also do not need to them to tell me what music I should listen to and what food I should eat. I do not want them in my bedroom at all… however they have been there several times until I decided to drive them out.

There are many ramifications to this subject, but for today I would like to point out a common one. Sex before marriage.

While I respect people that stay pure until marriage I think it is a big mistake. It is a huge mistake when only one has experience and a bigger one if both are inexperienced. If you come from a very conservative household it is very likely that you have never discussed sex with anyone. If you are also surrounded by people that are also very conservative your sources for information become very limited and sometimes not the best.

Pornography for example is one of the worse places to look for sexual direction. It is not only unrealistic but also geared towards very specific audiences. If someone has never had sex before and they see a run of the mill porn movie they are going to buy immediately into the sex is dirty and anything but missionary position is a sin. It is like giving a ten course meal to someone that is starving, it will overwhelm them.

If you have never had sex with the lights on while trying different positions and speed you are missing out. It is like always having French Fries while they are cold, without salt and saggy. While you might not like spicy curly fries after you try them, you might love them hot and dipped in ketchup or maybe even mayo. The key is to give it a try.

So if you have never given yourself the chance and you are too ashamed to even admit it or scared to look in the net. There is this book called the Kamasutra which I believe is a good place to start. Pick up a copy of one that is not necessarily pornographic from your local book store and share it together. If you end up getting your partner to at least try one of the positions there you are taking what I think is a step in the right direction.

RSS Reader Mission

Guilt is a powerful motivator… this one might not work for everyone, but hopefully it will get a couple of people. If you are at all like me trying to juggle a life, work and the Internet world; you need as many life hacks as possible. One that I cannot believe I did not discover on my own but thanks to a couple of local bloggers is how to make folder inside of your google reader.

If you are not already using an RSS reader, you are wasting valuable time. It is a lot easier to read a feed than visit several sites. It makes it manageable for me to keep up with my friends. I prefer google reader to others I have tried because I can access it from any computer in the house, or all over the world for that matter. If you are not already using it, you should; even more so now with the little hack I just started using.

Go to the bottom of the screen when inside of google reader and click on manage,

Step One

Then click on change folders,

Step Two

You will have the option of creating folders and then just picking the one that suits you best. I recommend you use time based tags like once in a while reads and daily ones. I hope this little tip gives you some time for the mission I am about to give you.

One of the reasons I dislike RSS is that they seem to diminish the participation of people. It makes it a lot easier for people to just ignore the leaving a comment part of blogging. While it is all about the blogger having complete control over the content and opinions on their blog, it is at times not worth much if there is no interaction with the reader. Some of the post that have frustrated me the most are not the ones that someone has disagreed with me, but those that ended up with no comments after I put a lot of effort into them.

So my mission for you on this year is to participate. Not just here, but all over the web. Even if your comment is that you agree with the person, let them know… take the time to just type, maybe you will even end up leaving a long winded comment.. it feels great when you do it and when you receive it. Happy commenting.