Comments on: Holding a Grudge since High School

By: Becky

Becky — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 00:06:00 +0000

It’s hard to sometimes let some of the comments go. For the most part, I’ve realized that kids just kind of have a cruel side — but I still can’t help but remember what some a-hole told me in 8th grade and how I’d grow up to be fat (I struggle with my weight).

By: logtar

logtar — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 00:37:35 +0000

I agree with you Nuke and I actually gave my schoolmate the same advice, that holding the grudge would only hurt him at this point.

I do not know how all of the bullies I encountered had their lives turn out, but I truly don’t wish any cosmic karma upon them because in reality it was probably simply immaturity and not innate meanness that drove them in my case.

By: kcgeek

kcgeek — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 22:24:09 +0000

Belive it or not, I too was a chubby kid during grade/high school. I too was the subject of ridicule just for the sake of making me cry. Sorta like a fraturnity right. The bullys got prestige points for pushing me around and getting away with it. (just look at South Park cartoon, everyone makes fun of the british kid.)
I do feel tho that I have grown past the anger I held aginst them. Mainly because I learned of the fates that befell a few of the more mean ones. This included Jail for a couple, and even death to one of them for driving drunk. It seems karma dose get aroud.

By: kcgeek

kcgeek — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 20:28:23 +0000

I too, was a chubby one in grade/high school.
And yes it was common for the weak and timmid to be picked on just for reputation.
(Just look at southpark. Everyone picks on the british kid just to be popular)
More often than not I too held back the tears the best I could when someone would whap me on the back of the head with a pice of wood at wood shop for no reason other than to see if they could make me cry.
I do believe I have letten go of these past tramua’s. And over the years I have learned the fate of a few of the more violent ones who had abused me ended up living in a trailer with several kids tuggin on their leggs, in jail, or worst of all died at a young age from drinking and driveing.

By: Nuke

Nuke — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 14:51:49 +0000

There are things I hate about the way people act, but I have only ever hated 1 person in a strictly personal way. I managed several years back to let go of that grudge.

I understand tho why some people can’t let go. It is sad, but some people simply cannot forgive or forget some things. Unfortunately that makes the hater more miserable than the hatee (is that even a word).