The word sorry is used a lot. I hear it all the time at work, TV, radio… I see it all the time. The funny thing is that I get the sense that most people just say it as a part of their normal speech but never put much thought or meaning being it.

Forgiveness is actually a concept that most people don’t get. Webster says about this word

1 a: to give up resentment of or claim to requital for b: to grant relief from payment of

2: to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) : pardon

and I think it is correct, but not truly understood.

Forgiving is something that affects the one giving forgiveness as much if not more as the one that needs to be forgiving. People also forget that even if someone does not ask for forgiveness, giving it to them is better for us. Our responsibility is to forgive those who trespass against us, and trust me it is liberating.

Forgiving is something that people often forget to do with themselves. Even in a situation with no fault, many people forget that they might feel anger or frustration. While those feelings sometimes are not the best and can hurt themselves or others, the first step towards recovery is to forgive themselves for those feelings. We are only human after all.

6 comments on “Forgiveness

  1. I forgive you for saying the T word (BUT DON’T DO IT AGAIN). Please forgive me for hitting you after you said the T word.

  2. This is something I try hard to teach people. Just saying you are sorry for something is not regret over what you did. And true forgiveness cannot come until you have true regret/repentance.

    That’s why some of my friends with kids think I am an asshole. If their kid does something and immediately comes to apologize because Mommy or Daddy said so, I do not accept until I talk to the kid about what they are apologizing for. It’s always little crap, and I always accept, but I figure they need to understand the process and not grow used to “I’m Sorry” being a get out of jail free card.

    Oh, and what “T” word Spyder? Taco? Tornado? Tapioca? I need to know, cuz I so do NOT want to get hit!

  3. Forgiving oneself is one of the hardest things to do, but is often the most important step in moving on from resentment. I don’t feel that you can truly forgive someone until you have forgiven yourself.

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