See how simple that was? Wait, you think I made that up?

It’s easy to express nothing but scorn for those guys who follow women around like lost puppies, cater to their every need, offer their shoulder to cry on, but then sit in amazement when the object of their affection turns around and dates everyone but them. We laugh at them for being spineless and weak. But the women involved in this equation deserve nothing but contempt.

Why? I thought you’d never ask. It’s not like the women here are blind to what the guy is hoping for. Yes, he’s naive for thinking that women appreciate courtesy. We all know they don’t. But women, if you have a guy like this in your life, for the love of god, cut him loose, tell him that you’re not going to be with him because bad people can’t be with good ones, and let him get on with his life. Better yet, instead of laughing at him and using him as your emotional crutch, tell him where he’s coming up short and let him try to improve himself so that he has a chance with someone else.

But women don’t do that. They want this little emotional slave around all the time. They want someone to listen to their whiny, girly nonsense. Women are bad people, so the fact that they only live other bad people is a matter of common sense.

I was there once. As a younger man, I was the nice guy, and I was genuinely so. I actually cared, and I paid a serious price for it. After a time, my emotions circled the drain, and I was happy to let them go. I knew that sitting around and feeling sorry for myself is the act of a spineless jellyfish, so that sure wasn’t an option. I because a full-blown jerk whose attitude towards women eventually turned into misogyny. I am neither proud nor ashamed to admit that I despise women and I treat them accordingly, and guess what? My success with them has increased dramatically.

Treat women like garbage and they will come running. Now admittedly, some have told me that I morally and ethically backslid just to get women to notice me, and you know something? I did, and I’m glad I did. There is no room left in this world for gentlemen. I am not going to sit alone in a dark corner just because someone out there thinks I should tie myself down to meaningless, outdated ethics.

The reason that I feel no shame about treating women with such contempt is because women deserve nothing but contempt. Besides, treat women that way and they’ll love you for it. Both you and she will get what you want.

If you women out there are about to start throwing words like “chauvanist” or the like in my face, spare me. I don’t care, and you women are the cause of that. Don’t like it? Look in the mirror. Maybe you should stop complaining about men unless you intend to start showing better taste in them.

We know you’re not going to do that, don’t we?

Again, women like bad boys for a simple reason that everyone of us knows at his core…all women are bad.

We do come from a culture that values silence and contemplation, and thus we are understood through stereotypical categorization and labeling. However, once that narrow perception is broken, we do emerge more prepared than what the local culture would have allowed.

Similarly, place the debate in terms different from “nice”, and allow the whole deluge of your reasons to impact the other. There is not nice, there is a cautious expectation and a judicious choice of battles.

I like the nice guys and always have, but it’s not my fault that they also tend to go after the jerk women

Ok, your blog ate my last comment…

Basically, I said that you didn’t burst any bubble…you missed my point, I think.

There are a lot of guys out there who think they’re nice. My sister recently communicated with one of them via a Craigslist ad in Orange County. I’ve tried putting in the links to the posts, but I think it’s what’s messing up my ability to comment. So check out June 12th and 13th on her blog (“How Do You Say” in my blogroll) for the story.

I know a few of them in real life. I’d give examples, but I’m afraid it would be too rude.

Basically, I said that you didn’t burst any bubble…you missed my point, I think.

There are a lot of guys out there who think they’re nice. My sister recently communicated with one of them via a Craigslist ad in Orange County. Here are the links to what she said about it:

http://howdoyousay.blogspot.com/2008/06/experiment.html

http://howdoyousay.blogspot.com/2008/06/little-clearing-up.html

I know a few of them in real life. I’d give examples, but I’m afraid it would be too rude.

Check out this post from my Twin for a more recent, specific example: http://howdoyousay.blogspot.com/2008/06/experiment.html

And this was the follow up post she wrote about what happened: http://howdoyousay.blogspot.com/2008/06/little-clearing-up.html

Maybe those help you see what I’m talking about a bit better…

Sometimes though, with confidence comes cockiness. It’s sometimes hard to balance one’s ego and be humble. Sometimes I can’t fit my head thru the door and act like a jackass. But overall, I consider myself a nice guy.

Being shallow is not a quality that I would associate with a nice guy. Thankfully I do not have that gene that predisposes me to find what a magazine portrays as “beautiful” attractive… to me its a whole package of kind of deal, and chemistry above just looks.

If the guy did not go to your wedding because he thinks compatibility is based only on a number scale, he is not just not nice, he is obviously an idiot too.

He didn’t come to my wedding. I don’t think it was for any reason other than the fact that he can’t believe that a woman like me was able to find a mate, and a guy like him still can’t find even semi-long term relationship. I think he resents me because even though I’m what he considers sub-par when it comes to attractiveness, etc…, I was able to get married.

Just one example of many, many experiences I’ve had with “nice guys” throughout the years…

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