Is Happiness A Choice?
“Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable than risk being happy.”
– Dr. Robert Anthony
There are harsh moments in life that sometimes overwhelm us to the point that we want to take a new direction. Some people call that hitting rock bottom. I believe that we all need to experience something of that nature before we are willing to institute change in our life. While it might not be as extreme for some people, it has to be something that shakes us enough to make us want to truly change, to move from talking about change to actually changing.
Risking Burro making fun of me for joining the happiness or positive cult, I believe that we all need to introduce positive thinking into our lives. The more I have tried to change my environment to have more positives, the better things have been. My thoughts have stopped going the wrong route more often than they used to.
I am a person that at times takes everything around me personally. While this is not something that I have completely been able to fix, it has improved tremendously. Most of it has to do with moving the life of control on my life closer to me. I do not let what others say, except for maybe what Burro says, make me change my self image as much as it used to. I now look at the people around me as people that might have other issues going on with them and simply trying to project something at the time they say something to me. I used to take a lot of things at face value, and I now let them sit for a little while before I let my brain think it is truly something about me.
I consider being happy being at peace with the world. Being at peace with the decisions you make, being at peace in the relationships you have. I wish I had been smarter about my feelings earlier in life because I would have not been as frustrated as I used to be sometimes. I remember that I thought that to achieve happiness I had to stop caring in some situations, but in reality is that I had to actually care enough to make decisions about those situations and being at peace with them.
Spending some time once a week looking at LOL Cats might not seem like it is a good therapy, but the laughter they produce have made it seem something I look forward to during the weekends. Spending a Saturday running around might not seem relaxing, but I got so much done this weekend that it felt a lot better than when I did nothing all day. Relaxing for me is not about quiet, but doing something that I enjoy to take a break from what my brain is busy with most of the week.
So what are you doing in your life to take a risk and be happy?