Comments on: Toxic Friendships http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/ Just a child stuck in adulthood Mon, 01 Dec 2008 19:57:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Shane http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357511 Shane Wed, 05 Mar 2008 17:18:35 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357511 Great post. Running into some of that right now. In the interest of saving friendships, I will not get into it. I'll just say this: isn't it interesting that those who you love most are most capable of easily harming you? Great post. Running into some of that right now. In the interest of saving friendships, I will not get into it. I’ll just say this: isn’t it interesting that those who you love most are most capable of easily harming you?

]]> By: Burrowowl http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357481 Burrowowl Tue, 04 Mar 2008 21:09:20 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357481 @Bea: How 'bout another Epictetus quote? "The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best." @Bea: How ’bout another Epictetus quote?

“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.”

]]> By: Well Hell Michelle http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357468 Well Hell Michelle Tue, 04 Mar 2008 17:48:57 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357468 I agree with you on this one. I've "divorced" a few toxic friends in the past, often too late to prevent being taken advantage by them. I read about leaveing a bad friendship. It had helpful suggestions, like do not just start ignoring the person. Tell them why you don't want to be friends anymore. Sometimes, that talk may save the friendship. If not, at least you were honest with the person. I agree with you on this one. I’ve “divorced” a few toxic friends in the past, often too late to prevent being taken advantage by them.

I read about leaveing a bad friendship. It had helpful suggestions, like do not just start ignoring the person. Tell them why you don’t want to be friends anymore. Sometimes, that talk may save the friendship. If not, at least you were honest with the person.

]]> By: Bea http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357465 Bea Tue, 04 Mar 2008 16:29:34 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357465 Burro, I am his spell checker. Everything taken care of now (way before I read your comment, though). What about sharing input instead of pointing at grammatical mistakes? ;-) Burro, I am his spell checker. Everything taken care of now (way before I read your comment, though). What about sharing input instead of pointing at grammatical mistakes? ;-)

]]> By: Burrowowl http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357436 Burrowowl Tue, 04 Mar 2008 05:23:37 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357436 Self stem? I love spellchecking software. Self stem? I love spellchecking software.

]]> By: nuke http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357434 nuke Tue, 04 Mar 2008 03:27:35 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357434 lol, don't get me wrong Logtar, I have known a couple of people who were takers (one I thought was a good friend for some time) and I know I am not one. I do however feel like I have gotten a lot more out of my friends and family in the last year than I have given. And I wish it were the other way around. lol, don’t get me wrong Logtar, I have known a couple of people who were takers (one I thought was a good friend for some time) and I know I am not one.

I do however feel like I have gotten a lot more out of my friends and family in the last year than I have given. And I wish it were the other way around.

]]> By: logtar http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357423 logtar Mon, 03 Mar 2008 22:50:48 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357423 @Nuke, Being in need of support does not make you a taker. I think it simply makes you in need of true friends. A taker that never gives back, as in not even a word of thank you. A taker in my eyes is the kind of person that expects things out of a friendship but does not feel like they have to do anything for the other person. @Nuke,

Being in need of support does not make you a taker. I think it simply makes you in need of true friends. A taker that never gives back, as in not even a word of thank you. A taker in my eyes is the kind of person that expects things out of a friendship but does not feel like they have to do anything for the other person.

]]> By: nuke http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357422 nuke Mon, 03 Mar 2008 22:45:08 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357422 Logtar you do come across as a very giving and helpful guy. If that's your nature it is hard to go against. Being conscious of the fact should help you avoid being taken advantage of. On the other hand, for the last year I have felt a lot like a taker. I don't like needing help, it makes me feel powerless (which in turn can leave a person needing even more emotional support). Most people tho come down somewhere in the middle. For me, I'll do anything for a true friend in need. That is mostly because they have all given TO me at some point, whether they know it or not. Logtar you do come across as a very giving and helpful guy. If that’s your nature it is hard to go against. Being conscious of the fact should help you avoid being taken advantage of.

On the other hand, for the last year I have felt a lot like a taker. I don’t like needing help, it makes me feel powerless (which in turn can leave a person needing even more emotional support).

Most people tho come down somewhere in the middle. For me, I’ll do anything for a true friend in need. That is mostly because they have all given TO me at some point, whether they know it or not.

]]> By: Cat http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-friendships/#comment-357406 Cat Mon, 03 Mar 2008 16:35:25 +0000 http://blog.logtar.com/2008/03/03/toxic-frienships/#comment-357406 ahhh. i had to dump one of these people earlier this year. i feel so much better now. she was horribly toxic. and i think she needs help. but oh a huge sigh of relief that i am not struggling with her anymore. whew. ahhh. i had to dump one of these people earlier this year. i feel so much better now. she was horribly toxic. and i think she needs help. but oh a huge sigh of relief that i am not struggling with her anymore. whew.

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