What is Culture Consulting?

When you go into a hospital for the fist time you encounter an information desk. They will direct you to your doctors office, or the registration office, or the room where the person you are going to visit is. After you have gone to that same hospital several times you do not need to stop at the information desk anymore but you know how to navigate the place.

One of the added values of a consultant is experience in an industry or field. During my career I have worked in some government contracts as well as some real state related services, but most of my experience has been in the Insurance and Healtcare industry. I have worked inside of many hospitals and was actually one of the first people that got to read the HIPPA rules before they were even final. That makes me valuable to a company that needs to enter that type of company because they will not have to train me on some of the general procedures or terms, but I can get into the specifics of the project.

When it comes to document imaging, I have not just installed big systems to make a company paperless but I have actually written some piece of them from scratch. I have had to evaluate both hardware and software and figure out what the ROI (return on investment) is going to be. Again that knowledge makes me capable of entering projects that require document management with knowledge that can help things move a little quicker.

Every industry has its own culture and knowing how to navigate it can mean the difference between a successful project and a disaster. Identifying the person that has that information is as critical as gathering all of the requirements prior to any project. A culture consultant is the person that can do that for a project. They should be the person that infiltrates the organization before a business analyst starts the talks with the people.

A culture consultant can also be someone already in the organization. It should be someone below middle management that knows what the glue that holds the company together. If such person does not exist, someone has to come in a identify the type of culture the company has and be able to come out of it with ways to improve it or at least optimize it before a project begins.

Culture consulting does not stop at the level of an organization, but more on a later post. Working with clients in both big and small cities in the us and also international clients hast taught me that every geographical location has its own way of doing things. The difference should not be ignored and taken into account when starting any kind of new project within a company.

Friendly Friday Feast

How many times per day do you usually laugh?
I try to get at least 5 or 6 times a day, but my wife and I do tend to laugh quite a bit together… I would like to make that more like 20 times a day.

What do your sunglasses look like?
I wear prescription glasses, so sunglasses are not something I war much. I do have a couple of pairs, one are complete cover up wrap arounds, and I have some small square ones… I like the John Lennon shaped ones, but my face is way too big for those.

You win a free trip to anywhere on your continent, but you have to travel by train. Where do you go?
Not sure, probably Chicago would be the trip I would do by train.

Main Course
Name one thing you consider a great quality about living in your town/city.
Its people, I love KC people.

If the sky could be another color, what color do you think would look best?
Green, some anime has used green for its sky and it does not look too bad.


Did I turn into a spammer?

Not really. I just thought it would be nice to contact everyone at once and instead of a simple e-mail I set up a mailing list. I am not sure if I am going to start using it in a regular basis or just every once in a while. You are welcome to give me your opinions on what we should do. So don’t be afraid, it was me :)

Expert Advice

I listened this morning to the news on my way out to work. It was only a couple of minutes but I heard the presenter introduce Bobby Flay as the expert that would help people how to do better when proposing marriage. A study, said the presenter lady, suggest that most woman are disappointed by the way their husband proposed to them.

I would be more interested to see the study that links that to divorce, but I digress. Who cares about how a guy proposes besides maybe the bride? I now see that step in a relationship more logically and think it should be a decision made by both and not a surprise… I remember somewhat being pressured to propose on my first marriage, and we all now know it did not work out. That was not the part that really bothered me about the report.

I have come to realize little by little that the news is starting to annoy me. The angles they do on their stories are always so far off from what really interest me its pathetic. Maybe it is because I read blogs for a lot of my news and information now and the commentary and angles are more interesting than what CBS, NBC or FOX think that the American public want to hear. This brings us back to the issue, how is Bobby Flay an expert on how to propose to your future wife?

I know who he is, I have watched him in the food network mostly in the Iron Chef. He has always stroke me as a little too cocky and a know it all. That could just be his TV persona, or maybe it is just the whole Chefs seem to be egotistical bastages because of how they act on TV. Then I thought maybe he has seen many people propose in his restaurant, but then it still does not make him an expert.

I think what made it even worse was the idiotic nature of his first statement that suggested most people want to be told “yes.” Or maybe it was the expert statement that covered the whole world population, some people go all out and some don’t… I stopped listening there because I knew the “you want to be right in between” statement was coming.

What makes him a expert on the subject of proposing? that is the question that still lingers in my head. I could see a jeweler maybe knowing more than him, because he is actually the person that gets to hear the stories of proposal before they happen. I could see maybe someone that did something really outrageous and was turned down… but a cook?

Just being famous does not make you an expert in my eyes, but more and more people with fame get to have a voice. I think that is the real danger of the celebrity culture, that maybe we are getting information from sources that are not very reliable. Be careful of where you get your expert advice, and next time you see one on TV, ask yourself if the person talking should really be considered an expert on the subject.

Sexual Desire

I started writing about sex because of how many of my friends were experiencing a difficult time in their relationship. I never expected to reach more people with it, nor did I expect that a greater percentage of my friends than the ones that had talked to me had been having problems with sex. I don’t claim to be a sex expert, but I do claim to be having a healthy marriage with a healthy sex life. I also know what bad sex is like and what it can do to a relationship.

I was the most surprised when the Sex Workers Outreach Project linked my bad sex post. I then exchanged e-mails with Amanda Brooks who used to be an escort and is now a writer. She said that there were not many man writing about sex the way I was. Then she wrote the following.

One double-standard you almost touched on: it’s okay for a woman to use sex as a weapon in a relationship but not okay for man to have sexual desires – even if he doesn’t act on them. Would love to see your thoughts on that.

This weekend while watching a movie with some of our friends who are a couple, the wife mentioned that her husband’s father used to be a Playboy subscriber. She said that she would not be ok with her husband getting the magazine every month because she knows what the magazine is used for, implying masturbation.

I believe that a man that has sex withheld from him by either his parter or religion is going to find an outlet for it. I know many man use pornography as a outlet for their sexual desires, but this can lead down the road of addiction. Personally exotic dancing does not excite me because I logically know that any attention I am given there is directly related to the money the woman thinks she is going to make, but I think this also can become an addiction if the only positive female attention you get is by paying. I have very limited knowledge on escort services or prostitution but one of my friends has paid for sex before. His experience was positive to the point that he has used them again, but I also believe that it creates a false sense of what sex is supposed to be for a relationship.

Christians think masturbation is a sin because of lust being a sin, however I have not seen a one eyed Christian in a long time. The last sentence being a reference to the following piece of scripture often referenced

Matt 5:28-29 (NIV) [Jesus:] “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.”

I find that so many people pick and chose what is law from the bible and what is to be updated with the times. Based on this scripture I think many Christian man should be walking around with patches. I personally do not believe that way and have never thought of the bible as a literal book. So what is a man to do that is not getting sex from his wife and his religion is telling him that he should not masturbate?

The reality is that eventually a wet dream will occur just because of physiological reasons. I don’t know if with age the production of semen will decrease making it harder to have a wet dream like it happens while we are in our teens, but I do think that man do end up masturbating and then feeling guilty about it.

Masturbation can be used in a very positive way. Like sex it releases stress and can help the minute man become a 30 minute man. Masturbation is something that can be done together and not stigmatized.

Even in a healthy relationship I think that sexual desire should not be seen as a bad thing. I think that humans have to be stimulated and as woman like to be given flowers and held after sex, man like to also feel desired and admire the female form. Like anything else anything can become an addiction so if porn or masturbation become more important than intimacy with your partner there is a cause of concern. Just never enter the vicious cycle of withholding sex and then making your partner feel guilty when he resorts to masturbation as a way to release tension. (pun intended).