Last post of 07

I really thought that my life had changed in 06, moving to a new city, ending a horrible relationship, facing some demons I had left in the cellar and did not deal with, but it cannot hold a candle to the year that 07 was. Not only did I marry my best friend, I also started enjoying life in a whole new way that I always knew was possible, trying to be completely happy and content every single day of my life.

I could make into a recap post, but I want it to be a little more than that… I want it to be my online gift to you so lets begin.

First you need to change your password. What? Work? yes. Begin this year being less of a victim and picking better passwords. Please read up on my guide how to pick a good password and what phishing is all about.

Second you need a laugh. If you are not aware, I have started a collection of the funny things I find online and been putting it on my tumblr. I bet you a penny that you will find at least one of the posts absolutely hilarious.

Third is very simple, do not be a pack rat. No I am not talking about personal possessions, even though that can lead to problems too. I am talking about things that bother you, if you woke up and tripped over a show that your significant other left there, just tell them it ticket you off without making it a big deal… it is liberating.

Right before the last thing I want you to do, I know I am kind of pushy, is to stop trying to please others and please yourself. Do not feel guilty for saying I want to do this instead of that. Being polite about what you want in life is the key, but seriously, pleasing others is not going to make you happy. Sure, it works for a while, but the moment that other person is not happy with something you did it all falls apart. So trust me, making others happy is very easy when you are happy first.

Last but not least, promise me that today you will call a family member or a friend that you have not talked to in a while. You do not have to kiss and make up, just wish them a happy new year and try to be the bigger person.

This year I made some great new friends and just this past weekend I met some of the local bloggers and some if not most have the potential of becoming friends. On that note I leave you with one thing I learnt this year, to have a true relationship both people have to want it. Relationships take a lot of work and doing it alone does not build a friendship, only resentment.

So take the good, leave the bad and have a happy new 2008!

Blogger Meetup

Thanks to some horrible past experiences I have been cautious about meeting people from the blog world. I am glad that I went and got to meet some new people that turned out to be a blast to hang out with. I don’t think I have ever had four hours go by that fast.

We got there a little early and had a beer while we waited. Bea had to go to the bathroom and a father was also leading his little girl to the bathroom. He just saw a dude standing out side the girls bathroom and like I was doing waited right outside. I realized that woman take forever in the bathroom, while we waited for them we only exchanged a couple of glances. I was half hoping Bea would exit the bathroom first so that he did not think that I was some weirdo hanging out by the bathrooms… it turns out we were there for the same meet up, and the guy waiting there was Meesha.

Before we found out about that, we hanged out at the bar enjoying our beer. There was another group of people there that pulled out a laptop but I did not recognize anyone… so we kept on waiting. Finally around the time the meeting was supposed to happen I did a quick walk around the place and found Spyder, Dan, The Librarian and Hoochie Mama. I told them that I had to go get my wife from the Bar… when I came back Meesha, Kansas City Kitty and KC Daily Photo had joined the group. Chimpotle arrived but was kind of shy probably thinking he was the youngest one there. I did not get a chance to talk to him as much as I wanted to, but I am sure we will in the future.

We got an awesome table and started to have chats about pretty much everything from religion to relationships. It was interesting to see how bloggers interact with each other in a group… I mean, we are all a little narcissistic and like to be the center of attention… and all the dialogue that developed. It was awesome to get to know everyone at a more personal level and to see how open everyone is once they are face to face.

Mr XO, Happy in a Bag, KC beer blog and Well Hell Michelle showed up fashionably late but joined the fun right away. I got to talk to some more than others and would really like to eventually call some of them friends. I love this town even more now that I got to meet some of the notorious bloggers around. Funny thing is that not many even realized that the veteran blogger of my household is actually my wife. She already posted some pictures in her flickr.

Firefox Speed Config

If you have firefox, as you should (IE Sucks.) you should also do a little changing so your browsing speed improves. That is if you have a high speed connection. Download the latest version (here).

In your address bar type about:config and press enter.

Then on the filter type network.http.p and press enter.

Double click on

network.http.pipelining and network.http.proxy.pipelining to change them both to true (the default is false)

then double click on

network.http.pipelining.maxrequests make it 8 which is the max (the default is 4).

Happy Surfing.

Last Friday Feast of 07

Name 2 things you would like to accomplish in 2008.
Be completely debt free and move to a place with hardwood floors 😉

With which cartoon character do you share personality traits?
A little bit of Garfield, a lot of Strong Bad and some of Green Lantern.

What time of day (or night) were you born?
I believe night, but I always forget… I was kind of being born at the time.

Main Course
Tell us something special about your hometown.
Cali, Colombia is in full party mode right now, and it will be for days :) Feria de Cali (Salsa and parties).

If you could receive a letter from anyone in the world, who would you want to get one from?
Wow, this is a harder question than I thought it would be… I am going to have to think about this one a little more

Sex Actually

It seems that sex sells. While for the most part I have refrained from posting about sex too much, mainly because I already get enough porn comment spam as it is. It seems that sex is something that needs to be talked about. I think it makes people either uncomfortable or curious. Which one are you?

I posted about bad sex last week and I got responses to it directly to my e-mail. It seems like sex is just something that not everyone is willing to discuss out in the open. While I do not condone total raunchiness here, I do not see anything wrong with having discussions about sex. Then I posted about Christmas and I happened to mention the movie Love Actually that I consider a Christmas movie after watching it, but it seemed to have sparked somewhat of a controversy.

If you read the comments you can see that I seem to have some pretty radical views. I then realized how taboo sex is in this society. From Janet’s boob becoming a topic of discussion. I posted about this topic in the past and how prohibition makes it almost something to try. I was able to drink beer from a very young age, and I never really felt a desire to get drunk on it.

The movie love actually is about love, but Mark saw it as a movie where the message was Love = Sex. Did we see the same movie?

I think this is where perspective changes everything. I see sex as an huge part of an intimate relationship, I put it up there at about 50% of a relationship. There has to be attraction to the other person in order to achieve ultimate intimacy. There has to be trust, commitment and love… but sex is just as necessary. Slow sweet sex as well as sweaty out of breath bed shaking sex. I believe that when a movie shows sex in regular Hollywood movies they do it in a very cheap way… the guy has to get laid as almost the holy grail that happens once in the movie before he does… do people really only have sex once?

The sex I like to see in movies is the real one, the one that gets interrupted, the one that has been built up for years, the one that consummates a relationship. Love actually had some of that, but the movie was not about sex, it was about love. Please, if you have seen the movie weight in… is it really that bad? is it over the top sexy?