Know Thy Neighbor

Today I realized something that made me both happy and concerned. I know my internet friends better than I know my own neighbor. April and Kris got into a car accident last night and thankfully, they are both ok. She called me late last night to let me know what had happened to her and today I called her to see how they were doing. During I conversation I realized that I know more about her than I know my next door lately. In fact, I did not even see her for the first 3 months I was here.

This is not a new thing, even though Kansas City is a far friendlier place than Michigan was, I do not feel more comfortable walking up to a neighbor and introducing myself than I did back there. At the last house I got to know the people next door mainly because they shared a patch of grass. In Chicago I got to know a couple of neighbors also, but besides the “small talk” we shared we never really shared all that much.

The internet is a wonderful tool and it is connecting people all over the world. While I cherish my friendships with all my blog buddies it does bother me a little that I do not even know the people I live around. Further more, I don’t even feel the need to do so. I have also had experiences with bad neighbors and I hope I don’t have to ever relive those again. While it is true that you chose your friends and not your neighbors, I would still want to live in a place like back in Colombia where you knew everybody on your block.

I have some wonderful friends at work now, and I have met plenty more that way, but I still have not met anyone from just the neighborhood that I could call a friend. It is hard to miss something you never had, but in my case, some of my best friends were people that lived around my house. I am not complaining in the sense that I don’t appreciate the wonderful group of friends that I do have, however it is hard not to have someone that I can call and say, hey lets catch a movie… well that is not entirely true, I do have that back in Chicago… but since I am not there now, you people have to come and visit!

In the end I am really lucky. I have friends in all corners of the world… what’s even better, I have friends all over this country that I can go and visit. Maybe I should do that soon, go and see some of my friend in TN, TX, or CA.

Running around

This week has been interesting. Lots of putting things back together, lots of running around. I did get to spend some time with some friends and share some Colombian food with them. That was an excellent time.

Since the Friday meme is in limbo and I don’t have time for a real post I figured I would do one of these weird what I am up to posts.

I actually watched Fast and the Furious Tokio Drift and was entertained. I thought it would suck, but it was great for an action movie. Drifting looks life fun, but all the car crunchin was sad. Some of the cars were surprisingly slick, I laugh at the tunner scene sometimes for overdoing some of the stickers, but a couple of the cars had some excellent looks to them.

Tonight I have a special invite to a club from a local DJ. It should be cool, off to dance some Salsa and Merengue. What are your plans for the weekend?

Borat! (****)

Borat!: Cultural Learnings of America for Make Benefit Glorious Nation of Kazakhstan is one of the best movies I have seen this whole year. While at times it is hard to see how ideotic middle America can be at times, the movie makes you laugh out loud at the stupidity of some of the people in this country. Whether completely staged or somewhat real, the interactions of Borat with the American people are priceless.

The movie has an endless supply of quotes, Sexytime, Vagin, and YES the soundboard is HERE. I have to say that this movie is a must see, and believe me you will be offended but not too much. I mean if you want to fend off the evil Jewish cockroaches you just need to throw money at them. Just keep in mind that actor Sacha Baron Cohen is Jewish.

Don’t wait another minute, check out your local listings and go watch it… NOW!

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Everything happens for a reason

“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

One of my favorite quotes in Spanish is “No hay mal que por bien no venga.” The words flow a lot better in Spanish, but when translated it means that nothing bad happens unless something good is right around the corner. I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about life and what is to come. I went back and read this post I did over a year ago and realized that I have not been doing everything I need to do to become successful in life.

I have compromised who I am for the sake of everyone around me. I have so many times made decisions that are mostly selfless and thought that they would bring me happiness but they did not. For once in my life I feel like I need to care just about me and what I want to do with my life. I want to be able to say that the actions I take from today on, are based on the pursuit of my happiness and not that of what everyone around me wants or thinks.

I think that you should follow your dreams. I want to do so much in life when it comes to travel, fun, knowledge, and family. I finally have turned a corner in my life when I feel that things are going to start looking up. I can start once again thinking that unconditional love is not a pipedream but a reality.

Today at lunch I was talking to some of my co-workers, and one guy said he had never experienced unconditional love until the day he had kids. I felt really bad for the man; to grow up and not ever feel unconditional love is a pretty sad thing to me. He was very ok with it, especially since he said that you don’t miss what you don’t know exists. I have felt unconditional love from my family since the day I was born, granted not everyone is that lucky, but I think everyone should.

Maybe that is what is missing from this society, more love, more unconditional love. I guess some people might think that unconditional love does not exist, but I do believe in it because I have experienced it. I know my family loves me no matter what. I even know that some of my good friends also love me that way. I would not trade this feeling for anything, and I think I am not wrong for expecting complete unconditional love out of the relationships that matter in my life.

I guess I ended up going on a rant, but my point with this quote is a mixed message. For one I believe in destiny, but I also believe that we make destiny happen… confusing… read the quote and really think about what it ultimately says.