“Find fault with thyself rather than with others.”
Ieyasu Tokugawa

Admitting that we are wrong is probably one of the hardest things we have to do in life. At times it feels like we are compromising who we are by admitting that we are wrong, yet it is the only way to really learn and grow in life.

I am not sure where in life it starts, but we seem to develop a sense of guilt during our lifetime. I have seen it in different degrees and in different situations, but it is present in almost all of us. Some people call it arrogance, others just simply finger pointing, but I believe every time that someone tries to find fault outside of themselves, they are at fault themselves.

We are not in control of the world around us, but we are in control on how we react and interact with that world. We are responsible for our own happiness, and I think that every time that we point the finger at someone else we are taking control away from us and giving it to that other person.

Professionally I have seen this behavior more than I like to admit. I have gotten to the point before that I think becoming a mason and doing brick work would be a lot more rewarding, I would then not have to deal with the so called “professionals” that are there to take every single credit but when there is any kind of wrong they are the first ones to run or finger point.

We have all heard that we have to be part of the solution and not part of the problem, but no one tells us how to accomplish that. I think the first one is to do away with the notion of fault and replace it with accountability. It might sound like an oxymoron at first since to be accountable, first fault has to be determined but bare with me. If you always have ownership over your mistakes and hold yourself accountable it will always be easier to find solutions. Once you determine your stake on the situation you know what you can and cannot do to change it.

In the end it is a lot easier said than done, but believe me I think that a lot of what is going on in the world can be at times be blamed on people always blaming others for their situation. If we could all just take charge of our own lives instead of looking at others for excuses on how they are affecting us (not us letting us be affected by them), we could all be better at making our lives better and therefore a better world for all of us.


Yesterday I posted about Juanes over at Proyecto Colombia. Juanes is a Colombian singer that has really done well in the US market but has not “crossed over” (as in recorded an English language Album) like Shakira or Ricky Martin. Juanes defends his move by saying tha the still thinks, dreams and writes music in Spanish, and I personally think is an excellent point of view. Music is supposed to be about self expression, not about making money. We all know how many artist “sell out.”

Juanes is an artist that writes music that moves your soul. From very politically charged music to love songs that expose his tenderness and passion. I have translated a couple of his songs to English and find his sound both unique and get up and dance worthy. His blend of Colombia and rock makes for an interesting mix that attacks the senses in a very moving way. That and the ladies thinking that he is not harsh on the eyes makes him a superstar that is really shinning.


Check out Juanes website. (You can listen to clips of his music)

Its My BirF’Day

Thank you Daniel for the Birthday wish and the title for my post. Yes it is my Birf’day and I am going to party like its my BirF’day. Actually we partied yesterday to celebrate my birthday and we had an excellent time. Despite the weather conditions, we expected 6 inches over night, plenty of people made it out to the party some of them traveling over 2 hours to just make the celebration. I would like to thank all the people that made it out and made this a very special birthday.

I always think that there is not going to have enough food for the party and we end up with a lot of left overs the next day. We made Hot Dogs Colombian style (Pineapple topping and crushed potato chips), Arroz con Pollo, Congri, Papas Chorriadas, and other h’orderves. Lily, one of my coworkers traveled all the way from Novi, Michigan with her husband and prepared my favorite Chinese dish for me Jajang Mion. I was also lucky enough to get other gifts, which were all appreciated. I got gift certificates to my favorite stores and restaurants as well as some special birthday cards. Even thought we made the festivities BYOB, we also provided a little Sangria to celebrate.

Today is the actual date of my birthday and besides waking up right next to the woman I love I also got to have Jajang Mion for breakfast was awesome. Am I the only person that thinks that having “recalentado” (leftovers) for breakfast is awesome?

I also had a couple of online celebrities in my house. The AlmightyGuru (who lived up to his name being a wealth of information on our Scene It and Battle of the Sexes games) and MikeP and (star coder who just this week released a new version of his Weather software Seasonality) his wife Katrina all came out and had an excellent time.

I always like to remember this post about the day I was born the day of my birthday. Even though my Family could not be here with me for my birthday they all called me and gave thier good wishes over the phone. That and having my online friends send me their congratulations for another day lived is awesome. Now I have to update my little introduction to reflect another year lived.

They say success is not measured by the stuff that you have but by those around you, well I don’t think even Bill Gates can feel as lucky as I feel to be surrounded by such wonderful people. Thank you everyone for making my birthday such a special day.

*** Update ***

I share a birthday with a fellow blogger and online friend (and I did not even know) stop by and give Jorge Q a Happy Birthday!

Reality TV

I have loved reality TV since I was a little kid. Now you might all say that I am not that young, but I think I have been watching what people call reality TV for a long time. I think reality shows are mislabeled. I watched the premiere of Survivor Panama last night, and it was great. I think the show has done a good job of evolving into something that is still interesting to people. I am still not a true fan of survivor. I can say that I enjoy it, but I would not call it reality TV.

Survivor to me is not a reality show, while it is the mix of MTV’s the real world meets game show and American Gladiators, it is not something that should be considered reality TV. If there is a game involved or strategy I think reality TV really loses its right to use the name. The Real World used to be real, but right now the only MTV shows that I think can count as reality shows are Made and True Life. A show that you have to “cast” should not be considered reality TV anymore.

A show that might fall under the “reality” show umbrella but are true gems is MXC (go to Spike TV’s website to find information on the show, but wow, it is a perfect example of design overload… My brain was almost complety fried byt the overflow) that is actually a spoof on Takeshi’s Castle. Takeshi’s Castle reminds me of a show that used to watch as a kid back in Colombia but I cannot remember the full name of except for having the word “match” on its title.

I love documentaries; they are what I really consider reality TV. POV is a great show that you should try to catch on whenever you can. I have seen some of the greatest stories on that show and they can be considered true Reality TV.

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