After reading April’s post and knowing the guy that originally posted what prompted her commentary (btw, it was not me) I felt somewhat at odds with Feminism. I have always been a huge promoter of equality of the sexes. I think both man and woman can perform every job out there. I don’t have a problem with woman in the military or police force, even though in the back of my mind I believe that woman should always be protected and taken care of.
I’m a man and proud to have a protective personality. I like being a provider, but I would not mind being with someone that also provides, I would not even mind to have someone that makes more money than me. However I still feel that there should be roles in a relationship and that the man should be he head of the household. Do I want to marry a homemaker? not really, I think someday I will have enough to hire a maid… however I do want to be with someone that takes pride on their home, kids and taking care of her husband.
Coming from a Spanish background I have grown up seeing roles that some women in the U.S. would consider from back in the 50′s but let me tell you how good it feels to have a home cooked meal by your mother. That does not mean that I also don’t enjoy cooking and helping out around the house, but I think that a woman is a better nurturer than a man is.
I don’t think having defined roles in a household is sexist. While many man out there are being homemakers today, I still think that woman are better at raising children. I also firmly believe that it takes a strong family of both a man and a woman to raise a child. There are a lot of characteristics in both man and woman that a child needs to experience.
I believe feminism when taken to the extreme kills the family structure. Just like taking machismo to the extreme is also wrong. A woman should be the centerpiece of the household, the glue that holds everything together. When you have households where no one wants to take the “homemaker” role, fights erupt over who is going to do the dishes or finish up the laundry. While I am not opposed to 50/50 I like to be taken care of. Is that really that wrong?