After reading April’s post and knowing the guy that originally posted what prompted her commentary (btw, it was not me) I felt somewhat at odds with Feminism. I have always been a huge promoter of equality of the sexes. I think both man and woman can perform every job out there. I don’t have a problem with woman in the military or police force, even though in the back of my mind I believe that woman should always be protected and taken care of.
I’m a man and proud to have a protective personality. I like being a provider, but I would not mind being with someone that also provides, I would not even mind to have someone that makes more money than me. However I still feel that there should be roles in a relationship and that the man should be he head of the household. Do I want to marry a homemaker? not really, I think someday I will have enough to hire a maid… however I do want to be with someone that takes pride on their home, kids and taking care of her husband.
Coming from a Spanish background I have grown up seeing roles that some women in the U.S. would consider from back in the 50′s but let me tell you how good it feels to have a home cooked meal by your mother. That does not mean that I also don’t enjoy cooking and helping out around the house, but I think that a woman is a better nurturer than a man is.
I don’t think having defined roles in a household is sexist. While many man out there are being homemakers today, I still think that woman are better at raising children. I also firmly believe that it takes a strong family of both a man and a woman to raise a child. There are a lot of characteristics in both man and woman that a child needs to experience.
I believe feminism when taken to the extreme kills the family structure. Just like taking machismo to the extreme is also wrong. A woman should be the centerpiece of the household, the glue that holds everything together. When you have households where no one wants to take the “homemaker” role, fights erupt over who is going to do the dishes or finish up the laundry. While I am not opposed to 50/50 I like to be taken care of. Is that really that wrong?
Another Friday another Feast!
Create a new candle scent.
Chicago Style Pizza.
Name one way you show affection to others.
I love giving hugs.
What is your favorite writing instrument?
If you were given $25 to spend anywhere online, from which site would you buy?
I would go over the Newegg and get a new keyboard.
Are you dressing up for Halloween? If so, what are you going to be?
Yes! I’m going to be NAAAAACHOOOOO LIBRE!
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson
One of the definitions that Webster gives to the word character is “moral excellence and firmness.” At times I feel like all of America has forgotten the notion of moral and ethics. I have met so many people in life that have little of not character to speak of. We should all have a sense of what is right and wrong and stick to it.
Something that helps build character is environment. If we grow up in an environment where it is ok to swear for example, it is likely that we are going to continue that behavior. I know for a period of time I was with a group of friends that dropped an f-bomb a minute and I picked that habit right up. It did not help that Beavis and Butt Head taught me a lot of the English I know. I have toned down the use of the word but it still slips out once in a while.
I have been talking with one of my friends about what makes us up, what is it that we are all about, what makes someone whole. Along with morals, honesty and beliefs I think character is one of the most important characteristics on an individual’s personality. Emerson’s quote really strikes a cord and almost defines the word character for me.
I believe I get a lot of character from my Grandfather. He used to always remind me that everything in life can be taken away from you except knowledge. He always instilled in me the notion of how important education and the gathering of knowledge was. Next week I will start practicing martial arts again in a regular basis as well as relearning French. I think it is important for me to use my time in a constructive manner and fortify all of who I am. If I ever feel like half of the man that my Grandfather was, I would feel truly accomplished. Every time I think of him I think of character, he always stood firmly behind everything he believed.
He is my favorite comedian and I actually do not mind that he dresses up as a woman… if you have not seen him, watch this clip and rent Dressed to Kill… he will not dissapoint you.