“Don’t dare to be different, dare to be yourself if that doesn’t make you different then something is wrong.”

I think every single human in the world experiences the pain of being different at some point in their lives. A lot of people chose to try to be “normal” and “fit in,” and I do not blame them one bit. Being different is something that takes courage, being different means that you have to truly believe in yourself to the point that what others think truly does not matter.

In our society, instead of celebrating uniqueness, tries to kill it. Free thinking is always considered subversive. Our kids have enormous pressure at school to be like everyone else. Expressing our thoughts is not encouraged in our society, just look at music, TV and Movies; we see repetition of the same “formula” over and over. Are we willing to compromise innovation for the sake of normality?

I love the quote above. It really takes over the whole uniqueness idea and it really makes it work. When someone tells you, be yourself, it can be a complicated thing, but it should feel good. That is how I measure things for me. If someone cares to be my friend, they will have to accept me how I am, they can still have their opinions, but they should respect who I am. If you feel judged when you talk to a friend, then that person is not your friend. Even during disagreements or when someone is trying to give you advice, there should be a level of acceptance on their message. No matter how different we are from each other we should all accept each other and celebrate our uniqueness.

As always, what does the quote mean to you?

***What Makes Me Happy Today (8/4)***
Reading the following quote and thinking of my wife.

“A true man does not need to romance a different girl every night, a true man romances the same girl for the rest of her life”
-Ana Alas

6 comments on “Different

  1. I come from a different philosophy. That being, “Don’t worry about what other people think of you.” And if anybody knows me, they know I have mastered that practice. Basically, I don’t worry about what people think of me. If you like me, great. If not, I don’t care. It’s a philosophy that makes public speaking a breeze. Ever get nervous to give a speech? I don’t.

    When I do nice things for people, I do it because it makes me feel good. Not because I want to change that person’s opinion of me or want something in return. And if I don’t want to do something, I’m not gonna do it. There is no guilt-trip factor with me.

    I don’t think I am a bad person. I am easy to get a long with and have a wild sense of humor. I will admit though, that it must be hard to be my friend. Sometimes I wonder why? And as for my wife… I’ll never understand that one. Ha.

  2. Travis may not care what people think of him. He does care what other people think about his with and how it reflects on him. Wrap yourself around that one.

  3. I don’t think is hard to be your friend. I think that most people out there cannot handle the pressure of having to look at themselves as weak people, which is exactly what happens when people around you talk about their convictions.

    I have met a very limited number of people that are as sincere with their beliefs as you are. Not just with other people but with themselves. Most people appologize for their beliefs, or worse they choose to say that they do not need you in their life because of X or Y belief. I have also seen people that change who they are depending on who is around them, yes to the point of their beliefs changing.

    You and I know that by today’s standards we should not really be as good friends as we are. Society has told us that a person like you should not associate with a person like me and vice versa. Reality is that we know that the moral principals at our core match, and furthermore we have a level of respect towards each other that is at the family level.

    When someone meets you and hears you talk they know that you are not eloquent but intelligent. Then you go on to express yourself about your conviction on a very direct way, that makes people very nervous. People are so politically correct now a days that they don’t even know how to define what they believe, they have a moral duality that is entertaining to watch.

  4. You are my hero.


    Melissa’s comment has a typo. She wrote ‘with’ instead of ‘wife.’ Which is true. I do care how people portray my wife because that is a reflection on me that I have no control over. I am solely responsible for how people see me. I cannot control that which affects me by proxy.

  5. Uh… that is a very touchy subject. I do understand where Travis in coming from. As a head of household, everything that happens there reflects directly on you, the bible even makes the man resposible for everyone in the household’s salvation.

  6. Society depends on a degree of conformity in order to function. When we shake someone’s hand or refrain from farting in public, we are, to a degree, conforming to the norms of society. Manners, a form of conformity, are also a form of social lubrication. Only a sociopath is completely indifferent to the opinions and expectations of others.

    I don’t advocate abdicating anything and everything you believe, but the ideas, and the expression of ideas, have consequences. For instance, that annoying guy that tells you every five minutes that you’re going to Hell cause you haven’t accepted Jesus Christ as your savior is, in a way, objecting to the standards of public behavior that society imposes upon us. Frankly, I think it’s good that society gives him an incentive to be quiet about it. If the cost of that is that I have to watch my words when it comes to my opinion of Mormons, then that’s a form of conformity I am happy to accept.

    That is the societal compromise on which conformity is build, and I just don’t see it as altogether negative. To the extent that it takes courage not to “go along” then modern-day bigots are courageous people. But then, so were the freedom riders in the 60’s that broke with society in order to improve it.

    Conformity and individuality are, ultimately, value-neutral. It depends on what is being conformed to and what is being rejected as to how worthwhile they are.

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