I am not sure how many of you have made big moves during your lifetime, but man is it stressful. There is not only the packing and restablishing of the services in the new places, there is also the emotional stress of the people you are leaving behind.

I did not like Michigan as much as I had hoped I would. I like a lot of the people I met, but suprisingly enough it was a 50/50 kind of thing. I met a lot of jerks, losers and overall people that I just don’t want to associate with. Starting the process of meeting new people again can be a hard task… but what if the place where you are going everyone you meet is a decent person…

Growing up I moved around my hometown a couple of times. I never really considered it a big change, and most of my teenager years were spent in the same place. Even when I did move, I still saw my extended family every weekend and I managed to always stay in touch with most of the people I grew up with. When I started High School over there I got to know a lot of new people but only related to a few. Some of them I am still in contact with thanks to the internet. I had achieved a level of freedom in my city that was exhilarating for me. I could hop in a bus and get around the city with no problem. I would go visit friends, go watch movies or go to my favority burger and hotdog joint.

Then I moved to Chicago. Almost out of highschool and not knowing anymore language than what sesame street might have been able to teach me I became I suddenly lost all of my freedom. My parents were very concerned so I could not just say, I’ll be back later and set out to just hang out. Slowly I made some good friends, but it was not like in Colombia where the public transportation was very accesible to me. Here I had to be driven by other people if I wanted to get around. Not knowing English was another problem, I could not even go to a fast food place and get a meal. By the time I was a senior I had started to speak a little more english and I bought my first cars with the money I was making working at McD’s. It was as if the wings that were clipped when I moved had suddenly grown back.

One of the things I did first was drive as far as I could to get somewhat lost. Not to the point that I had to call someone, but where I would have to find my way back on my own. I got to know Chicago and the surrounding metropolitan area pretty good. I will never forget the day that I took Travis around Chicago and showed him the city and he said, I cannot believe a foreingner is showing me my country. That is just how I am though, if you put me in a unknown environment I eventually find my way around.

I love Chicago. It is still my favorite city in the world. Great food, great blue collar attitude and just an overall pride that tells East and West coasters, we don’t have to shout we are better than you… we know we are. 😉

A little over 3 years ago a job brought me out to Michigan. I have only the good friends that I made to be thankful about. Besides that this state really beat me up emotionally. People are overall cold and reserved. Even though they are always polite, they say how are you doing without really caring what you respond. At times I felt like responding, purple turtle, to see if anyone would even notice. I did make some great friends, but it happened toward the very end of my life here. I did get to meet a lot of people, but most of them were just passing friends. I hope my friends do come and visit me out in KC some times, but if I know anything from experience, only a couple of them will make it out there.

So far I have spent a total of a couple of weeks out in KC, but I am amazed at how nice people are. I would venture to say that the people are even nicer than the ones in Chicago, but maybe I have just been lucky and met all the nice ones first. My coworkers welcomed me in such a way that I never expected. I did not need to rent cars or pay for hotels because they were all ready to take care of me while I needed it. One of the things that always bothered me about moving to Michigan was that after I got the job my boss never invited me out to dinner, his church or any other event. I felt that since he was the one that made me move out here he should have done a lot more to make me feel confortable than do a simple drive by the apartments I was going to move into. When I voiced that to people in the past they always told me I was expecting too much. At my new job I have not even have to ask once, and I have gotten dinner, free stays and an overall commitment to make sure I feel confortable in KC. Someone could argue that maybe it is that the companies were different sizes… but in reality, my last employer could have afforded a lot more than what they did for me. Maybe it is just KC, maybe I am just lucky… even thought moving is not easy, meeting new people made me understand that “alone” does not apply when you have good freinds around.

6 comments on “Moving

  1. My husband is from Michigan, and I have issues with the way everyone in his family is different from how people are here (I live in KC). At first I thought it was just his family, but the more time I spend up there I realize that it definately his whole town.

    I’m constantly amazed that if it abundantely clear that I need help, no one offers it in Michigan. They’ll say “you look like you could use a hand” but it’s like they force you to ask. Here, people help out without having to ask, and they always have a smile on their face.

    I may hate the heat and humidity here, but I sure do love the people.

  2. Hey, I am happy to hear that the new company is treating you so well. I am very impressed that the company sent flowers to Aymi, I am sure the other company would have never ever thought to do that for anyone.

    I wish you continued good luck with the new company and the move. I hope that you had a great holiday weekend at home with you family and that they will soon be able to join you at your new home.

  3. It’s great to hear that things are going so well with the new company!! Good friends are hard to come by, and it definitely sounds like there are many of them waiting for you in KC.

    Although it is hard to be separated from existing friends, particularly those recently acquired, I’ve come to realize that the good memories coming from any friendship make it all worthwhile. I think those memories are a large part of what gets us through when life abruptly changes course, until we’ve regained our footing and are again surrounded by good friends. The faces have changed, but that just means more good memories are in store. 😀

    Happy 4th (ok… a little late)

    PS… I got a (long-awaited, well-deserved, under-compensated – but definitely needed…) promotion!!

  4. Mom moved her family much back when I lived with them, and I moved a lot, too, when I was in college. I thought at first that it was a good thing to feel indifferent to your neighbors and the people because, something in you felt this wouldn’t last, and you’d move again, for one reason or another. But the point this comments thread is making is valid: the people really do make for the soul and character of a neighborhood, a town, a city. That character sort engulfs you, whether you are antisocial or not. I’m glad you’re settling down nicely.

  5. Moving to a new city is definitely harder than most realize (very few people I know well have actually done it, except for college). I’m glad to hear that you’re liking your new place. I’ve been to Michigan a couple of times for work, and got the same feeling when I encountered strangers. The people I worked with were nice enough, but that could’ve been because I was “the client,” so they felt more obligated than normal.

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