On capitalism & family values: it is not that capitalism cannot be made good, but we do, however, focus more on “capital” in the U.S. than we do about society. I believe, that comparing Columbia and the U.S., it’s like comparing apples and oranges. They may both be about the same shape, but they are totally different in taste, color, and texture.

On women and men in raising a child The reason, as you’ve noted as to why we do have sex roles in our society, is because they have been reinforced, not because they are innate. What you are stating is an ideology of what a woman and man’s role is in society, and honestly, I believe it is easier to accept societies reinforced ideologies than to challenge them. I encourage you to challenge these ideologies.

I completely disagree on the capitalistic society angle. Colombia and many other countries are Capitalist societies and still have family values… granted, they are deteriorating world wide, but while I believe that being Capiltalist does hurt family I don’t think it should. I don’t believe that socialism necesarity improves family relationships either.

I think we agree on fathers taking responsabilities helping the mother raise a child. Where I disagree is that a man can do a better job. It has been documented that what a mother provides to a child cannot be provided by anyone else, also man can provide a lot of things to a child but must of us lack the understanding of feelings and emotions that are innate on a woman.

Our society teaches man to be strong, our instict is that of providers of food, shelter and protection but not of feelings, nuturing and care. I believe that while our society and humanity has evolved quite a bit in recent centuries, we cannot ignore the thousands of years where the roles of our sexes developed into what they are now. I don’t know of many matriarcal societies anymore, and I think that a woman is more suited to do rearing… now that said, that does not mean that I think that everyone in the world should be a parent… but that is a whole other post.

On the other hand, I must disagree with the whole idea that mothers are the best child rearers. If there was ever a time to put more pressure on men to be better providers, it is now. Women carry too much of a burden already, and have been doing so for thousands of years, even though it takes two to make and rear a child. At first John, it may seem as if it would be better to go back to the days of old, when women took care of their children and made sure they had all the emotional support they needed, but men be just a good a parent as a woman. Indeed, I realize that a bond between a mother and child is very special both on an emotional level and genetic level, but behavior-wise, which is actually where most of a child’s ideologies about life develop, should, in an ideal situation, come equally from both the father and the mother. I hope this bit of info adds to your entry, because it was a good one, and I’m going to delicious it.

John Guzman links to an article about a large-scale broadband rural access project in Colombia on Proyecto Colombia, while he compares family structure between Colombia and the U.S.A. on his personal blog.

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But I would vastly prefer what I have that to some family dynamics I have seen, heard of, or been exposed to. Thank you very much.

I just remembered so clearly that how I used to seek the approval or assurance from my mother when I was a teen…and I swear that I would not spare any of those for my daughter (if I have one) in the future. I no longer seek my mother’s approval but just shut up and listen.

It seems that daughters get along more with fathers and sons with mothers. Can anyone share their experiences and why is it like this?