“The real reason for not committing suicide is because you always know how swell life gets again after the hell is over”
-Ernest Hemingway

“Suicide is the punctuation mark at the end of many artistic careers”
-Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

“Suicide sometimes proceeds from cowardice, but not always; for cowardice sometimes prevents it; since as many live because they are afraid to die, as die because they are afraid to live”
-Charles Caleb Colton

“Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.”
-Phil Donahue quotes

A coworker and a friend took his own life a week ago. It has been a very difficult time for me, I am full of sorrow and regret because he was such a beautiful person. I have heard that sometimes even the smallest act of kindness can change someone’s desire to commit suicide and I wonder, could I have done anything?

I call him a friend because many times he made me smile; he gave me great advice and was always supportive of me. When I first started at my current company it felt at times pointless to have an opinion. Being new without any proven record sometimes makes what you think a little harder to get across. My friend always respected my opinion and often times supported it, it empowered me to accomplish things that I would not have without his encouragement.

He was someone I wanted to get to know a lot better, someone that I would have loved to spend more time just talking to because I know that he was full of wisdom. I understand that I feel this way because I truly cared for him not just as a person but also as a friend.

I wish I had expressed how much the little things he did mattered to me. Not saying that it would have made a difference since I don’t know what his reasons were for taking his life, but I regret not telling him how positive my interaction with him was. I will truly miss you my friend.

I cannot past judgment in his action since I was not in his situation. I believe personally that suicide is never the answer. Life can sometimes feel like it is falling apart but we have to be survivors and we need to keep on fighting. Like Hemingway says you always know how swell life gets again after the hell is over.

12 comments on “Suicide

  1. “Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem” This is so true – I feel a person must be really selfish or desperate to commit suicide – don’t feel guilty there must have been so much going on in his mind, things you could never have known about.

  2. Logtar I think that one small kindness does make that difference. I’m living proof. However it wasn’t the friend sitting across from me on the moniter that saved my existance, but the man i’d been married to 20yrs & known 47. He saved my life, even if at the time I didn’t know it. It took self-realization recently to awaken my inner being and see who my ‘real’ friends were. I put false hope in that man across on the monitor, when in fact it was with me the whole time.

    The moral of the story is this… one sometimes can’t see the forest through the trees.

    It wasn’t up to you to help that workmate, but i’m certain the person closest to him realizes now… Keep the faith! AHO

  3. I’m so sorry to hear that! I know how you feel, a childhood friend committed suicide when we were in 9th grade; 10 years ago.

  4. All I can say is I am so sorry. Words would not be sufficient to describe what I feel when I read that, nor are they sufficient to describe your feelings either, I bet. God bless you, and keep the faith.

  5. There are many reason people commit suicide. My reason would be simply, live fast die young have a goodlooking corpse……

  6. Never responded to anything like this before…
    Just here to say that there are some of us out here who are just not into living. Nothing against anyone, wish there was a way to do it and not hurt anyone. But for those who are brave enough to do it, their pain is over. At least try to see/understand/consider that point of view.

  7. I am 16 years old and today i didnt have school…..i was happy until at 7 30 in the morning i got a call from a good friend saying that a family friend who is a senior at my school and is the Valivictorian of my school and has been accepted to an Ivy league school has just been found dead in the courtyard of my school. I didnt believe her while she told me crying to me on the phone….He commited suicide… he jumped off a two story building. he was reported missing the night before and left a note to his parents on the computer. I told my mom and she fell to the floor crying…we had grievance counciling at my school and my mom wanted me to go…i didnt want to though. im not really sure how i feel…im sad but im angry that he did this too us…and why at school..his life was perfect…his family is amazing and he had such good friends… i just wish he could answer me…but i will never see him again…i am soo sick of having people ask how i am and i just wish the news reporters would let it be. i wish time could go back and maybe he could have gotten help….that day he ran away he sounded fine he was happy as always. He has two older sisters that are gorgeous and smart. One is a senior at georgetown and the other is a varsity cheerleader and a sophmore at Villanova…..God bless his family and him

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