For the past week I have been trying to form an opinion about this case and I cannot come up with a concrete one. I have heard about this case for a while now. If you do not know about this case you can read this article in CNN, it also has a link in the sidebar to a very informative timeline.
I see the positives of this whole ordeal that is being played by the news over and over being only that more families now have to discuss one of the more difficult topics. Death. I have always wanted to be cremated once I live this world, but a loved one brought up a good point… what about a place to go visit you afterwards. It is a morbid though but it did make me reconsider my decision of being cremated. I think it is important to let your loved ones know what your wishes are, such as being an organ an tissue donor as well if you want to sign a DNR (Do not resuscitate).
Terri’s case is complicated, we are not in the position that the family is. While the husband has the legal backing by being the guardian, I see how the parents can feel that she should stay alive if they see a hope for cure. If the hope for cure that has been presented by doctors is just a legal move to reinsert the feeding tube, then I feel that the parents are being a little selfish by not letting this women move on and rest in peace. If there are doctors out there that really believe that there is hope for her, I think they should be very careful with that prognosis. What should be considered a real chance, 5% 1%. I know that I would have a hard time making this decision for a loved one, but I am quick to say that I would not want to be kept alive artificially for a long period of time. Quality of live and dignity should count for something. Also that people need to live on, not stop their lives. There is a saying that we used back in Colombia that is someone cold, but true. “The dead to the tomb and the living to the party.” I have also really admired that the Irish celebrate death by having an all out party after the funeral. I would like that to happen the day I leave this world, all my friends and family just drinking to my honor and having a good time. I would like to remember for the fun that I had and not mourned.
The other side to all of this is that, it is kind of sad that the media is spending so much time in this case. Every day people have to make this kind of decision for a family member. I know this because there is someone actually close to someone I know that is close to passing away. A couple of days ago 45 people died in Iraq and our media still covering this case more than those deaths. I am not making a judgment call here for Terri, but if it were I, my tube would have been removed already.