Comments on: For a Deaf Son http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/ A Road Without Obstacles Leads Nowhere. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:50:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mallory http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-365320 Mallory Mon, 14 Feb 2011 18:48:42 +0000 /?p=339#comment-365320 Where can i find this movie online? Where can i find this movie online?

]]> By: Shannon austin http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-365160 Shannon austin Tue, 28 Dec 2010 03:32:28 +0000 /?p=339#comment-365160 I recently learned seven months ago that my precious 2 year old is deaf. I am so proud of my son, his deafness and the beautiful way he talks with his hands. I have had drs and family pressure me onto implants. Allowing him to use his voice. This was the most difficult choice I have ever had to make. I feel for these parents because we only want what's best for our children. I have found that it is easiest to accept my son is deaf. And appreciate the amazing person he is. After just seven months my son and I are quite fluint in sign and I am very proud. His vocabulary is right on target with sign. He does have language therapy once a week to learn to use his implants. We will continue with it as long as he enjoys it. We take it day by day and ultimately it's his choice As to which language to use most. But he will be bilingual until he is ready to make the choice. Every day I look at him and hope Im making the right choice. I recently learned seven months ago that my precious 2 year old is deaf. I am so proud of my son, his deafness and the beautiful way he talks with his hands. I have had drs and family pressure me onto implants. Allowing him to use his voice. This was the most difficult choice I have ever had to make. I feel for these parents because we only want what’s best for our children. I have found that it is easiest to accept my son is deaf. And appreciate the amazing person he is. After just seven months my son and I are quite fluint in sign and I am very proud. His vocabulary is right on target with sign. He does have language therapy once a week to learn to use his implants. We will continue with it as long as he enjoys it. We take it day by day and ultimately it’s his choice As to which language to use most. But he will be bilingual until he is ready to make the choice. Every day I look at him and hope Im making the right choice.

]]> By: Ciana http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-363963 Ciana Wed, 29 Sep 2010 00:03:16 +0000 /?p=339#comment-363963 My condolences to the Tranchin Family. I hope they have had some closure and hopefully are able to begin to heal. My condolences to the Tranchin Family. I hope they have had some closure and hopefully are able to begin to heal.

]]> By: Holly http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-363862 Holly Sat, 24 Jul 2010 14:48:34 +0000 /?p=339#comment-363862 I was just about to begin writing my paper about this documentary film and wanted to view some additional information. Your reaction paper was the first. I was already emotional while watching this in our class. I may have been the only one with tears streaming down my face while other students were badgering the mother. I could see both sides of the parents decision making because I am a parent also to a healthy 2 year old son. All I could think about was my son and how as parents would we have reacted and handled the situation. My husband and I can some times have very different opinions therefore I could see us going through a lot of the same emotions and arguments that Thomas's parents went through. My heart broke after reading this reaction paper because it was the first time I was made aware of Thomas's death. I felt like I had some small connection with Thomas then to hear about his tragic death was just heartbreaking. As I went to bed last night, I was just telling my husband about this documentary. We were discussing how fortunate we are with our son and all that he has accomplished within his first two years of life. I worry 24 hours a day about my son. I never knew how much having your own children would affect every aspect of your life. As I write my paper on this documentary, I won't be able to stop thinking about his tragic death. I wish this wasn't how the story ended. I was hoping to research some uplifting transformations that Thomas may have made throughout his life. I will still do some additional research on any changes that he may have made until his death and also on how the family are. My heart truly goes out to this wonderful mother, father, and brother. I pray they have found peace with his death and that they have been able to move on. Thank you for posting your research. -Holly- I was just about to begin writing my paper about this documentary film and wanted to view some additional information. Your reaction paper was the first. I was already emotional while watching this in our class. I may have been the only one with tears streaming down my face while other students were badgering the mother. I could see both sides of the parents decision making because I am a parent also to a healthy 2 year old son. All I could think about was my son and how as parents would we have reacted and handled the situation. My husband and I can some times have very different opinions therefore I could see us going through a lot of the same emotions and arguments that Thomas’s parents went through. My heart broke after reading this reaction paper because it was the first time I was made aware of Thomas’s death. I felt like I had some small connection with Thomas then to hear about his tragic death was just heartbreaking. As I went to bed last night, I was just telling my husband about this documentary. We were discussing how fortunate we are with our son and all that he has accomplished within his first two years of life. I worry 24 hours a day about my son. I never knew how much having your own children would affect every aspect of your life. As I write my paper on this documentary, I won’t be able to stop thinking about his tragic death. I wish this wasn’t how the story ended. I was hoping to research some uplifting transformations that Thomas may have made throughout his life. I will still do some additional research on any changes that he may have made until his death and also on how the family are. My heart truly goes out to this wonderful mother, father, and brother. I pray they have found peace with his death and that they have been able to move on. Thank you for posting your research. -Holly-

]]> By: kevin http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-363833 kevin Fri, 02 Jul 2010 18:46:14 +0000 /?p=339#comment-363833 Where can I find movie called "for a deaf son".? Where can I find movie called “for a deaf son”.?

]]> By: Angel http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-363478 Angel Mon, 01 Mar 2010 01:44:35 +0000 /?p=339#comment-363478 the movie was very good i watched it in asl, I would love to watch it again the movie was very good i watched it in asl, I would love to watch it again

]]> By: I am NOT hacking your website! http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-363401 I am NOT hacking your website! Thu, 21 Jan 2010 15:43:47 +0000 /?p=339#comment-363401 [...] readers know that I am not a stats whore. My site is popular because I have written about Tommy’s death (when I took an ASL class) and because I was an early fan of the movie the Boondock Saints. That [...] [...] readers know that I am not a stats whore. My site is popular because I have written about Tommy’s death (when I took an ASL class) and because I was an early fan of the movie the Boondock Saints. That [...]

]]> By: Cindy Who http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-362871 Cindy Who Sat, 24 Oct 2009 04:25:18 +0000 /?p=339#comment-362871 Settle down Keri, no one was calling deaf people 'deficient' or 'incompetent' people. It's their hearing that's deficient or incompetent. With deaf, their auditory organs aren't working correctly. Nothing to be ashamed of. Settle down Keri, no one was calling deaf people ‘deficient’ or ‘incompetent’ people. It’s their hearing that’s deficient or incompetent. With deaf, their auditory organs aren’t working correctly. Nothing to be ashamed of.

]]> By: Keri http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-362860 Keri Mon, 19 Oct 2009 01:47:59 +0000 /?p=339#comment-362860 AND TO ADD!! Please quit calling your children hearing impaired! The correct term is Hard of Hearing or Deaf. im⋅paired  –adjective 1. weakened, diminished, or damaged: impaired hearing; to rebuild an impaired bridge. 2. functioning poorly or inadequately: Consumption of alcohol results in an impaired driver. 3. deficient or incompetent (usually prec. by an adverb or noun): morally impaired; sports-impaired. How would you like to be be called deficient or incompetent.. DO YOU UNDERSTAND NOW!!! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- AND TO ADD!! Please quit calling your children hearing impaired! The correct term is Hard of Hearing or Deaf.

im⋅paired  –adjective 1. weakened, diminished, or damaged: impaired hearing; to rebuild an impaired bridge.
2. functioning poorly or inadequately: Consumption of alcohol results in an impaired driver.
3. deficient or incompetent (usually prec. by an adverb or noun): morally impaired; sports-impaired.
How would you like to be be called deficient or incompetent..
DO YOU UNDERSTAND NOW!!!

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]]> By: keri http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-362859 keri Mon, 19 Oct 2009 00:34:42 +0000 /?p=339#comment-362859 I'm very sorry but I just don't agree with you. He hung himself in a closet with a belt. It was NO scare tactic. It was very intentional. And yes, you are missing the point of the movie. The father released this documentary to show how involved he became in wanting to learn about deaf culture and what kind of school is right for his son. He learned that his son's happiness and successes in life were his own and not a reflection of his parents. The mother was so judgemental and was so worried what other people would think that she didn't even give her son's feelings a second thought. And, as a mother myself, I cannot on earth believe she treated him the way she did. When it was christmas and Tommas wanted a truck, she kept saying T-R-U-C-K.. ok now "TOMMY ,SAY TRUCK". Good grief, let your son be a kid. Most of the time she spent around him was correcting him and trying to be a therapist not a mother. It was uphauling to see that child try to learn sign with the other family friend and all she cared about was trying to get him to speak. Just in case you didn't know, ASL IS a language. It has structure and is very valued in the deaf community. If ASL is his natural language then why push him onto English. It's a waste of time. Eventually they end up learning sign language because it's what come natural to them. Imagine yourself trying to learna language that isn't your native tounge; it's hard isn't it. And you never will fully master it. Same concept but with delicate, fragile children. All that boy wanted was love and a way to communicate, just not the way "SHE" wanted. So, if you think he commit suicide because of an accident, your delusional. I hope you do a little more studying and ask the deaf community how they feel about that. Just because she was a mother that loved her son doesn't mean that was a reason not to have dont what he did. I don't know about you but to this day I am still trying to please my mother. It was a sad thing. You should think about how he felt before writing any more papers. I’m very sorry but I just don’t agree with you. He hung himself in a closet with a belt. It was NO scare tactic. It was very intentional. And yes, you are missing the point of the movie. The father released this documentary to show how involved he became in wanting to learn about deaf culture and what kind of school is right for his son. He learned that his son’s happiness and successes in life were his own and not a reflection of his parents. The mother was so judgemental and was so worried what other people would think that she didn’t even give her son’s feelings a second thought. And, as a mother myself, I cannot on earth believe she treated him the way she did. When it was christmas and Tommas wanted a truck, she kept saying T-R-U-C-K.. ok now “TOMMY ,SAY TRUCK”. Good grief, let your son be a kid. Most of the time she spent around him was correcting him and trying to be a therapist not a mother. It was uphauling to see that child try to learn sign with the other family friend and all she cared about was trying to get him to speak. Just in case you didn’t know, ASL IS a language. It has structure and is very valued in the deaf community. If ASL is his natural language then why push him onto English. It’s a waste of time. Eventually they end up learning sign language because it’s what come natural to them. Imagine yourself trying to learna language that isn’t your native tounge; it’s hard isn’t it. And you never will fully master it. Same concept but with delicate, fragile children. All that boy wanted was love and a way to communicate, just not the way “SHE” wanted. So, if you think he commit suicide because of an accident, your delusional. I hope you do a little more studying and ask the deaf community how they feel about that. Just because she was a mother that loved her son doesn’t mean that was a reason not to have dont what he did. I don’t know about you but to this day I am still trying to please my mother. It was a sad thing. You should think about how he felt before writing any more papers.

]]> By: Stormie http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-361813 Stormie Sat, 28 Feb 2009 00:26:25 +0000 /?p=339#comment-361813 I have just recently finished watching the move 'For a Deaf Son' in my ASL class. I think it is the movie that has made the biggest impact on my life. I was shocked and saddened to learn of his death and I only wish that I could speak with his parents personally to tell them that in no way is this tragedy their fault. I can tell just from the movie that Thomas was probably a great person when he was older and was eager to communicate. I can understand the tough desicion that was set before Thomas's parents and I know that they only wanted what they thought was best for there son. For Tommys parents, family, and friends- I offer my condolences. -Stormie. I have just recently finished watching the move ‘For a Deaf Son’ in my ASL class. I think it is the movie that has made the biggest impact on my life. I was shocked and saddened to learn of his death and I only wish that I could speak with his parents personally to tell them that in no way is this tragedy their fault. I can tell just from the movie that Thomas was probably a great person when he was older and was eager to communicate. I can understand the tough desicion that was set before Thomas’s parents and I know that they only wanted what they thought was best for there son.
For Tommys parents, family, and friends- I offer my condolences.
-Stormie.

]]> By: Savannah Koestler http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-359712 Savannah Koestler Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:39:55 +0000 /?p=339#comment-359712 Hey everyone, I watched the film for my ASL class last year, and I just watched it again this year... I had no idea that Thomas commited suicide! My ASL teacher just told me 5 min ago! I am so shocked! That is so sad... I asked my teacher wich choice the parents chose, she said that they went with the oral method. If this is true, I think that added to all the problems that Thomas had to go through. I was telling my ASL teacher that if I had a deaf child I would want to raise him/her in the Deaf community. I know I am not Deaf, and I know very few Deaf people... but I have been learning the language for over 4 years now, and I have come to have a deep respect for the language and culture of Deaf people. I can put myself in the situations that they go through, and ask myself "What would I do?" or "how would I feel about that?" I have to write a paper for my college comp 1 class, a persuasion essay (did I spell that right?) But I am going to either write it about: - Hearing parents not getting their deaf child a cochlear implant or - Hearing parents not sending their deaf child to mainstream school I am still not sure which one I am going to go with... If any of you have suggestions, comments, or help for me you can post a comment on my blog page: http://blog.lsc.edu/savannah I feel so sad about what happened to Thomas. I know it wasn't all the parents fault. This is a difficult situation to face. But I know that if I ever have a deaf child, I will do my best to raise them in the Deaf community, because this way the child will not feel like they are not good enough, or that they are lacking. Please post me a message on my blog page! Thanks! Hey everyone,
I watched the film for my ASL class last year, and I just watched it again this year… I had no idea that Thomas commited suicide! My ASL teacher just told me 5 min ago! I am so shocked! That is so sad… I asked my teacher wich choice the parents chose, she said that they went with the oral method.

If this is true, I think that added to all the problems that Thomas had to go through. I was telling my ASL teacher that if I had a deaf child I would want to raise him/her in the Deaf community. I know I am not Deaf, and I know very few Deaf people… but I have been learning the language for over 4 years now, and I have come to have a deep respect for the language and culture of Deaf people. I can put myself in the situations that they go through, and ask myself “What would I do?” or “how would I feel about that?”

I have to write a paper for my college comp 1 class, a persuasion essay (did I spell that right?) But I am going to either write it about:

- Hearing parents not getting their deaf child a cochlear implant

or

- Hearing parents not sending their deaf child to mainstream school

I am still not sure which one I am going to go with… If any of you have suggestions, comments, or help for me you can post a comment on my blog page: http://blog.lsc.edu/savannah

I feel so sad about what happened to Thomas. I know it wasn’t all the parents fault. This is a difficult situation to face. But I know that if I ever have a deaf child, I will do my best to raise them in the Deaf community, because this way the child will not feel like they are not good enough, or that they are lacking. Please post me a message on my blog page! Thanks!

]]> By: Ann-Louise Winter http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-359363 Ann-Louise Winter Tue, 11 Nov 2008 14:14:28 +0000 /?p=339#comment-359363 I am an audiology student and watched this film for my Counselling class. It is important for both parents and professionals to realize that more information is best but the information has to be provided in a way that parents can use it to make a decision. It is always the parents' decision to make and it was heartbreaking watching the mother's pleading for help in making the decision. I believe that parents of deaf children need to belong to a support group so that they can discuss what they're going through with other parents in the same boat. Hearing parents with a hearing child can't understand the anguish of the decisions they have to make. There is nothing "bad" about being deaf/Deaf! However, this is a situation that no-one is prepared for unless there is deafness in the family and support is vital for the family to be able to function and move forward. I am an audiology student and watched this film for my Counselling class. It is important for both parents and professionals to realize that more information is best but the information has to be provided in a way that parents can use it to make a decision. It is always the parents’ decision to make and it was heartbreaking watching the mother’s pleading for help in making the decision. I believe that parents of deaf children need to belong to a support group so that they can discuss what they’re going through with other parents in the same boat. Hearing parents with a hearing child can’t understand the anguish of the decisions they have to make. There is nothing “bad” about being deaf/Deaf! However, this is a situation that no-one is prepared for unless there is deafness in the family and support is vital for the family to be able to function and move forward.

]]> By: Jessica Alvarado http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-358912 Jessica Alvarado Tue, 12 Aug 2008 18:28:37 +0000 /?p=339#comment-358912 Just wondering how I might be able to view this documentry?? Just wondering how I might be able to view this documentry??

]]> By: Alex Parks http://blog.logtar.com/2004/12/03/for-a-deaf-son/comment-page-1/#comment-357905 Alex Parks Fri, 28 Mar 2008 02:23:08 +0000 /?p=339#comment-357905 Wow. I Also Had To Watch This Movie In ASL 1 Class. During the movie we had to write about where we think he would be in 10 years. i wrote that i thought he would be happy signing as well as talking. when we turned our papers in we got an update. the paper said that Thomas commited suicide. that really is not what i expected! i also hope that tommy and his parents' story can help other parents with deaf or hearing impared children! and i would like to thank the parents of tommy for making this film, i am very sorry for your loss! Wow. I Also Had To Watch This Movie In ASL 1 Class. During the movie we had to write about where we think he would be in 10 years. i wrote that i thought he would be happy signing as well as talking. when we turned our papers in we got an update. the paper said that Thomas commited suicide. that really is not what i expected! i also hope that tommy and his parents’ story can help other parents with deaf or hearing impared children! and i would like to thank the parents of tommy for making this film, i am very sorry for your loss!

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