“A simple friend thinks the friendship over when you have an argument. A real friend knows that it’s not a friendship until after you’ve had a fight.”
I pride myself in having a lot of friends, but I have lost 3 dear friends along the way. This quote speaks to me in a very painful kind of way because I remember those relationships and see how much I miss them. I do not regret what happened, but I do think that I learned a big deal from those situations.
I would like to think that now I am equipped to have a good friendship survive an argument. I sometimes work backwards from most people giving way too much trust in the beginning of the relationship and then when it is overstepped taking it all back. I know this is a somewhat unfair approach but it’s just my personality I guess.
I have very real friends, never thought I would meet some of them online but I sure did. Some of my closest friends (IRL) in real life now, I first met online. My closest group of friends is people that I met during college; we have formed very long lasting relationships from that period of time. Then I have the friends that I have met in the jobs that I’ve had.
My newest group of friends is the people I have met at church, and they are an excellent bunch that made me feel welcome from day one. We have tons in common and they are more of a family than a group of friends, so I truly feel blessed by having them in my life.
Now my dearest group of friends is my online buddies. Most of them I have met through blogging, but they have helped me get through some tough times in my life this year. I do not know what I would have done without some late chats from them. They kept me sane.
So how many different groups of friends do you have? Have any of the friendships you have now survived a fallout? How did you overcome that fallout?